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writes:Dear Cupid,I would just like to know that what you guys make of when a wife adds her ex-boyfriend on birthday that some boyfriend that she used to say was not a good person and deleted him and now re-adding him saying he is a nice guy? When she was deleting him, she asked for my opinion but now added him without my permission. Your answers are keenly waited her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): Have you asked her what her reason is for adding him? Only she knows for sure.
I am friends with one of my ex's because generally we get on better now than we ever did in a relationship, and we have established the friendship we had before we got together in the relationship. I can say she's a better person as a friend, but a nightmare as a girlfriend.
Maybe its a similar story with your wife and her ex boyfriend...as I said, only she will know the real reason so your best bet to getting to the bottom of this would be to ask her directly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): oh god, no... i'm sorry i must re post, i severely disagree with this other guy, do NOT ask her if she's having sex with him, as that is never a good question to ask, the answer is usually no, and you make her feel untrusted. she will be very defensive and unwilling to hear the rest of what you have to say
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): It could mean many things. Sit her down and ask her why she has done what she did? If the answer seems reasonable don't worry about it. If not ask her if she is having sex with him or rekindling a lost relationship or friendship? Is it something you haven't done or forgotten? Is your relationship between the two of you going to crash and burn?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): ok...in general i'd say, it means nothing, and agree with the other posters
but..she asked you when she deleted him, and for her not to ask you when she re-added him, means something, maybe nothing bad, but the change in behavior means something.
you need to just ask her.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 March 2013):
 I just re-added my ex husband to my facebook page... and I had lunch with him last week. Neither his wife or my current husband thought twice about it.
If it's after the relationship breaking up wounds have healed i see no issues with being friendly with an ex.
Time heals all wounds.
She asked for your opinion when deleting him which was not necessary, she does not need your opinion much less your permission to add someone to her facebook page.
I don't think it's anything bad, just ask her why she did it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): Just talk to her and ask her why she did. Ask her after all she said about why she is now adding him.
Don't do or presume anything bad, just ask her.
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