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writes:HI and thanks for your time, I have been married 30 years my wife is 52 and is really hot. Two years ago there was an "incident" with one of my sons 23 year old friends. No sex act but touching. Well I said knock it off (and shook him) and it all stopped. The past year however this friendship restarted, I am very ticked off at the amount of time that they spend together but when I confront her she really gets mad and says there is absolutely nothing going on. I do kind of spy on them check her texts, and watch and see how they act around each other when no one is around and it appears she is telling the truth. Its real hard for me to carry on this relationship but.. she is really OCD and has some problems and as long as she is allowed to hang around with him believe or not she treats me better. It is hell when I lay down the law and say knock it off. I try everything to keep her interested in me. I offer to do anything take her on vacations basically give her what she wants (she does not have to work) but she says this is her friend and she won't give him up. (he's a loser got no job etc.) Any advice would be helpful, I won't divorce unless I can find she had an affair.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 What do you mean when you say there was "touching"?
What are some examples of their texts?
How and when do thry see eachother?
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reader, bob49ny +, writes (10 October 2011):
bob49ny is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies, we tried counseling it just did not go so well. She really had no desire to continue it. You are right she is getting some kind of ego lift from this younger guy and I feel if she really cared about me she should stop. I think I may be stuck in this thing... She has had a lot of cosmetic surgery and botox and it really has worked out she looks about 35. A lot of my sons friends hit on her so I guess in a small way I should be thankful that she is just hanging around with this loser who doesn't show all that much interest in her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): Its great that you think your wifes hot after 30 years..nice one
I do wonder how she would feel if the situation was reversed and you had a young female friend? Would she be as understanding?
Its clearly eating away at you so needs to be addressed, maybe he is just a friend, maybe not. But its affecting your marriage badly and I think its time to sit down together and lay your cards on the table.
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