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writes:Im 30 and my wife is 24. I found lots of porn in my wife's computer, this doesn't bother me or make mad. The problem is that I don't feel sexually satisfied at all. We have sex once a month with luck. Everytime I want have sex with her she is tired, stressed or for some other reason just not to do it, but when she wants she just shows up and ask me, do you want to do it? yes or no!I have tried almos everything, talk to her, trying new things in bed (toys) new positions etc, but nothing seems to work. Those time that I have talked to her she seem to realize that she is not given me enough and she says that she is going to change and that she notice the problem, but after a day or two everything comes back to normal. Her computer history show that she watch porn a least 4 or 5 times a week. All the sex that i found is sex in groups and bisexual stuff. I have no problem watching porn with her, but she doesn't like it, or even watch her masturbating, but she doesn't like nwither. I have tried to get off masturbating myself but after a while it doesn't make sense to me, why to do this if i have a partner to enjoy? I totally feel replaced by porn. Please some advice, thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): Go and get some marriage counseling. My guess is she is in her early 20's and has difficulty having orgasms when you have vaginal sex. Many women are like this and especially younger ones for a variety of reasons.
She knows how to have one by herself and for some reason she doesn't want to show you how to do it, just a hunch, but I think so.
I don't know if the type of porn is truly meaningful except she probably finds it especially dirty and naughty so that gets her going.
I think she has a problem with porn, best to get a professional in on this to help you all sort it out and improve your sexual relationship.
I would give it a chance to work and tell he that you are not happy with the lack of nookie in your bed and that as your partner you would hope that she wants to express her love to you more often by having sex with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): Your ticking all the sex boxes, how about the romance ones? Perhaps to have sex with you more (and not just to "get off"), she needs to feel love there. Try holding her hand when out in public, or tell her she looks beautiful today, or write her a poem and leave it for her to find. By connecting with you more she may come to you for her needs. Cant hurt to try it? Just a thought...
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