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*orkey
writes:I came home from the hospital and needed help with bathing and dressing. My wife needed to work so her best friend Sue offered to help me shower and dress. .My wife agreed so Sue came and helped ungress and shower. She was professional about it like the women CNAs who helped me in the hospital. I admit that I enjoyed the care she gave and enjoyed being naked. I didn't say aanything about it but just thanked her for helping me. She helped me all week and I enjoyed it. Is that all right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2020): It's weird a non-professional is bathing you; and it's a little too much that you're getting-off on it. Why would your wife ask her friend to bath her husband?
If she's not a CNA, LPN, RN, or a certified home health-aide; she has no business giving you baths. That is probably a benefit offered unbeknownst to your wife.
I'd like to hear Sue's version of the story. Somehow I think it would be different from yours. You may have undressed and placed her in the awkward position; but I'm skeptical that it ever happened.
I think you're being a rascal and you're just making this up. If it's true, I think your wife trusts Sue; but you're taking it to another level. In any case, it's not a thing! Wives letting their friends bath their husbands while she's at work. I'm not buying it!
The whole situation is strange to me. If your wife is foolish enough to let her friend diddle around with her naked husband; she deserves whatever mess comes of it. It would be entirely her own fault. Sue's also a creepy lady for agreeing to it.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 March 2020):
 When you asked your wife this question, she said ... well, what did she say?
You could ask an online forum if not shaving and growing a beard is okay. Every single answer might be “sure!” However, if your wife doesn’t like a beard on you for any reason, does she have input on this?
I think you’re just getting some jollies from being naked in the presence of a woman who is not your wife. What caused your need for this kind of surgery at your relatively young age? Your screen name is “Porkey” ... was this a surgery related to obesity? Do you need the approbation of another woman to make you feel better?
And lucky you to get surgery before all the Coronavirus crisis closures and limitations affected your recovery. Now of course, unless you are disabled, you and your wife will be able to tend your post-surgery needs together.
Stay home, wash your hands and practice social distancing.
I’d ask your wife.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 March 2020):
 Honestly?
I think you are taking advantage of your wife's friend and her willingness to help you and your wife out.
You made this into some sexual or taboo, whereas I think the friend did this to HELP.
I think it's a bit on a creepy side, OP
And I think if your wife OR her friend knew this... they would both feel weird about a caregiver task and situation.
Don't make it weird.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2020): You cant help the fact that you enjoyed being looked after and you remained passive throughout. None of this was of your design and it was born of necessity, suggested by your wife.
You have done nothing wrong.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (20 March 2020):
 It’s fine, as long as you stop thinking about it now and work on your marriage with your wife. Maybe you should shower with her, so you can enjoy and think about that instead of her friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2020): Did you get an erection when she bathed you. If not then it does not come under cheating.
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