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writes:I have been married to my wife for 8 years.Over the past year I have become repulsed by having sex with her. I love her very much and and married her because we get along very well together. Sex with her in the beginning of our relationship was fine, but over time I have just become less and less attracted to her physically. Is there something I can do to trick my mind into thinking sex with her would be fun and not a chore? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): I thank you for the replys.She was plus sized in the beginning of our relationship, but has since gained about 65 pounds in our 8 years, I love her personallity, but for some reason unknown to me sex has gotten to the point of work.I want to be attracted to her. I can't help the way I feel, perhaps I am a bad person. Looks aren't everthing to me by the way. If that where the case I would not have married her for the way we compliment each others personallity. I thought I was a good guy for not focusing on looks when we married. I'm just lost.....
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 You can still love someone but not be in love with them any longer and that's a sad fact about many marriages. You should maybe talk to her about how your feelings have changed and discuss whether both of you want to stay in the marriage. It's hard to tell someone you're not in love with them any longer, but it's unfair to her if you live a lie. That situation often leads to affairs and that's a lot more hurtful than falling out of love and being honest about it. Good luck, hope you can work it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): Did she change alot physically, Any weight gain? If yes, then you can discuss it with her, but if not, I have no advice
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