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male
age
30-35,
*eTigre
writes:The woman I have been dating is 1 year older than me, we have been together for about 2 and a half months, but I have been interested in her for about 5 months prior to us having a relationship. And I feel that she is the smartest, most beautiful, sexy, caring, incredible woman on Earth.. I have had two serious relationships before her that lasted about one year each, I broke up with them and those girls did not want to break up with me at all. My current amazing girlfriend has been in modeling and beauty pageants for her looks, charm, and intelligence, but even if she wasn't involved in those activities I know I would still feel the same way. But what I don't understand is why she really chose to be with me and I'm scared when she moves out of town in September to a bigger city she will find someone better.. She has never been unfaithful and I completely trust her as she is on holiday with a lot of friends, I have no insecurities that she will hook up with any of them, but I have never felt this insecure about myself because I have confidence in my abilities to please women, emotionally and sexually. The last girl I dated was four years older than me and she admitted she wanted to marry me.. I was 17 and that freaked me out a bit, and I always thought why would she want to marry me when I am 17 and she is 21 and guys her age were always asking her to dinner.. So I am regularly very confident in my abilities to make a woman happy and relieve insecurities. She is just so beautiful and I feel I could tell her with confidence I could easily and happily spend the rest of my life with her but I don't think she could say the same.. I am currently unemployed and in school, her GPA in high school was 99% while mine was only 79%, I am VERY hairy (just not my back or face) my body doesn't look like the desired "image" portrayed by the media, her two past boyfriends had great looks and bodies, were smarter than me, and were older than her.I'm frequently second guessing myself, my workouts and runs have become twice as hard for me as I am driven by motivation to look better for her, and I dropped a lot of pleasure activities to study harder in an attempt to become more knowledgeable.My question is: why would someone completely out my league want to be with me?Girls: Does it make you feel better about yourself when the guy you are with seems inferior to you?
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (14 March 2010):
 I am not a model, but a want a man superior than me. My guess is that looks and success have nothing to do with how man would treat her. It's just like why celebrities like Kenny Rogers and Nicolas Cage would marry restaurant hostesses? It could be that they want relationships to be pure and simple without being tinted with greed and materialism. Nowadays, with all the FWBs, and "I am not looking for relationships right now", "I don't want anything serious", "I don't want children", "I don't want to get hurt," etc, etc, everything will make sense to you. Love doesn't have to be complicated.
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