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writes:I was with this girl for 2 years... she is 18 and i am 22... she was simple at heart, very caring towards me, beautifully understanding and very practical... on the top of everything crazy about me.... she made me feel SO SO special every time since two years... she never missed any moment to talk to me and remembered every single second related to us..... it felt like her life completely revolved around me and i have found the right girl.... we travelled together a lot at many many places and shared almost everything!! we were thankful to god to have made us meet and shared a very special bonding... she was my soulmate and was a very big support for me in my thick and thin times and she did her job very well..! i had fallen for her completely. We used to meet once in a month though, then she went out of town to do her further studies and things have not been the same since that month.... she cared like before and showed love, but it wasnt like before, our contact GRADUALLY reduced and i became mad at her every alternate day for not bothering and concerned like before..... she gave excuses of being busy with her schedule and that her friends were around and she cant lie them every time (her friends didnt like me because her brother told them to keep an eye on her because he was against me contacting her for some reason).. yet, she was caring and soft hearted towards me and said she liked me but was scared of her brother and not sure how to fight for it.... even after all this happened, she made me feel special and told me how much she missed me when she saw my gifts and listened to my songs.... but i could see that things were not like before and they had faded a lot.I was getting mad at her so many times gave her a reason to finally say that her feelings had gradually reduced and she doesnt feel the same love for me any more... this shattered me and i was devastated.... i could never imagine in my dreams she could say this to me when she was 100 times more crazy for me than i was.... she tried her level best to sort it out every time and COULD NEVER SEE ME UPSET WITH HER...! but i had reasons to do this as i felt i deserved to be treated better than this and things werent the same..... initially when i used to become upset, she would fall on my feet and ask for forgiveness if she was the reason for it... i dont have any words to explain how perfect she was and made me feel so special... she wouldnt miss any chance to meet me and would jump on her feet and wait for that day but i forgot that things had changed lately and was rottening in the same world... poor me.... she was still to me good but not like before..... i cried to her on the phone but she had nothing to say... she said we can remain friends if i want... it has been 5 days since all this happened..... i am emotionally collapsed and feel so lost waiting for her call or text... whenever we recently since a month, i went back to her after losing patience and she knows that very well that she can have me anytime...... but i dont want to repeat the same mistake this time..... i have ignored my self respect many times reminding her her responsibilies as a girlfriend and those days when she was crazy about me... she has been saying she still is crazy about me and we need to meet in order to reignite that spark as she doesnt want this to fade away... she said this a week back... but suddenly she says its all over and she doesnt feel the same way anymore..?? she is confusing me...I thought she wants it back but never imagined that i was a burden on her.... it made no difference to her now if i cried.... i am ready to have zero contact... but i doubt she will ever miss me..... i am crying even while typing all this.... how can two such committed people of their own words change and let go everything so easily?? should I call her? i know everything will be alright once we meet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): Hey Bro,
Man up. If you want this thing with her to work then wipe your tears out of your eyes. She doesn't want to deal with your soppy ass when you are a mess like this. You'll need to see her to reignite that spark so I suggest you call her and arrange a time.
I remember the first time my ex and I met after she told me it was over. I could see on her face that she had almost had a heart attack. It was a very emotional moment, on that I'll never forget. But I never would have got that reaction from a phone call. Face to face is money.
I don't know what your situation is like but if you want it, go get it. She sounds like she is worth it.
Repost and let me know how you make out.
J
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reader, freddyfred +, writes (14 March 2010):
 id say just let her go i know how u feel and just let it go if she did this now how about 10 years from now if she does it then just move on and find someone else
i was married for 8 years with 2 kids and that didnt stop my ex wife from leaving she wanted to be 18 again i couldent stop her just let them go and find someone else
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