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36-40,
*irvana838
writes:Ok so me and my ex broke up a couple months ago cuz she said she just wanted to be single for a bit. These are some things she said during the time of the break up...."I'm 100% certain we will be together one day for the rest of our lives." "I've always wanted that and always will." "I think you would be an amazing husband and father to my children." "I don't want to think of this as a break up, more like an "on hold."" We saw each other a couple times a week after the break up but not much in the last month unless we bump into each other. In the 2 years we were together she has never lied to me, and I'm not saying that cuz I'm blind to it, I'm saying it because I know its true. So my question is, should I believe all those things? And if they weren't true, why would she say such deep and emotional and serious things knowing i would believe her?
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reader, LJP2000 +, writes (12 July 2010):
She said that because she wants the best of both worlds. She wants to date and see other people. But just in case she doesn't find someone "better" then she wants to keep you around. She wants to do as she pleases, but still wants you to be in the picture in case things don't work out the way she likes.
You deserve better.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (12 July 2010):
 She may feel that way, but if she really valued your relationship she wouldn't be putting it 'on hold'. Her wish to be single for a while doesn't make much sense, unless she wants to date other people and see what else is out there while keeping you around as a backup plan. It sounds like she's trying to manipulate you into sticking around, just in case being single doesn't work out. As I said, if she really valued your relationship and took it seriously she would want it to continue, not be put on hold.
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reader, Odds +, writes (12 July 2010):
 She is saying that because she wants to have her cake and eat it, too. She has found her nice, safe provider-male (you) but wants to experience some dangerous, bad-boy loving. She just has had the luck to find you first, before getting the slut-phase out of her system. Odds are very high that she is sleeping around during this "on-hold" phase.
If you can tolerate that, more power to you. Personally, I cannot see any good reason to put up with that sort of behavior.
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