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Why would my guy want to be friends with his ex after everything she did?

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Question - (26 November 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 27 November 2012)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

My man was with a women 7 months and she cheated, stole, destroyed his heart and now he wants to be friends with her and she wont leave him alone. How can i make her go away???? Why would he want to be involved with her after that at all anyway? I JUST DONT GET IT!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012):

Have you told him how this makes you feel? You need to understand you cant make her go away...and the reason is he doesnt want her to....he isnt over her....he still has feelings even if its unhealthy they do exist....if its that painful for you may need to think about whether you want to be in this relationship....you only have control over you...good luck

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A male reader, bronzed adonis United Kingdom +, writes (26 November 2012):

bronzed adonis agony auntI think he probably still loves her. He doesnt seem to want to let go totally, does he?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012):

Because your boyfriend is a liar OP. If she was that bad then he wouldn't be friends with her. I never believe anyone who says things like that yet still keeps that person in their life. They're either a liar or weak and well I don't want either kind of person in my life, they can't be trusted with my most precious of feelings and my heart.So what do you think OP, is he a liar or weak? It's only one of those two and people can spout all the forgiveness crap they want, he's willing to lose you just to have her in his life, it's that simple.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (26 November 2012):

Honeypie agony auntLike SVC said YOU CAN NOT make HER or this go away. ONLY he can. If he WANTS to be friends with her he is not over her, plain and simple.

Why do people do some of the weird things people do? It's hard to say. For him, I would imagine that he things he is "helping" by being her friend and perhaps he thinks she will change, apologize and/or be grateful for him.

There is NO good reason why he needs to be friends with her AT ALL. HE CHOOSES to be friends with her. So you need to CHOOSE if you can handle that or not. Personally, I prefer my life drama free.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (26 November 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntSadly YOU can't make her go away only he can.

IF he's not making her go away he's still hung up on her.

You have to decide if you are willing to accept her sloppy seconds.

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