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writes:Hi iv been sleeping with a guy I know for about two years now. I normally go to his on a weekend say after a night out and he'll take me home in the morning. We get on really well and have a laugh we both know its just fun and I'm happy with that.if he sees me out he would come over to me and stay with me for ages or all night. We normally leave it a few week and either one of us get in touch and then will meet, he's single and has his own place. The thing is I met him this weekend after ages of not seeing him cos iv been so busy and it got to the point were he was texting me more than normal so I went to his and because we hadn't seen each other for ages we was talking all night for house before we even did anything. He knows my ex and was talking about him sayin he was in the pub tonight I told him I meet you an he got jelous I said oh right.he actually text him an said I was looking fit. I said why do that he said oh he would with me.he said he's not over you but it don't bother me! And we was talking about relationships and he turned round and said what makes a good girlfriend I said I think someone who's loyal and he just looked at me. Then we were lying on the couch together an he was playing with my hair for ages and telling me how nice I looked etc it was nice cos we was cuddling an then we went to bed. I left the next day but realized I'd left a few things there so I text him to see if I could pick them up I had no reply so I left it few days an asked him he still hasn't replied but wrote a status on facebook so I know he's seen the messages. I just don't get why he's ignoring me he doesn't normally I know he's not seeing anyone else and I know he'll be in touch in few week again. My friend said he's playing mind games but why do that when he gets what he wants already no hassle. It has anoyed me cos I don't know why he'd do this. Is he just not bothered and can't be bothered to reply which I don't think he would be like that cos were just friends an there's no need to blank me or is he playing mind games and wants me to chase him I don't get it
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reader, katiebline +, writes (17 January 2013):
katiebline is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks for all your advise I do think it has got a lil heated maybe on my side more. Obviously its not just sex with all the other things but I also don't think he knows what he wants. Maybe if I just ask him outright one time and see his reaction rather than beating around the bush it could scare him away but it might not. He is 29 and I'm 23. I've always wondered why he's never had a girlfriend and with him saying what makes a good girlfriend maybe I've read into things abit too much and just leave him to get in touch with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2013): You're both playing mind games, if you're just in it for a bit of fun then why are you talking about all this crap or even give a damn? So what if he's not answering? Okay if that stuff is stuff you really need for something then you have a right to be pissed about that but all the other stuff is just bullshit. Either be FWB's and keep it fun or just stop altogether.
He is playing mind games and so are you. He's not interested in more and if he is he's being a dick about it, trying to make your ex jealous like some kind of egotistical kid and then trying to bait you into things too.
It's basically like this OP, are any of these games fun for you or is this starting to wreck your head?
Get your stuff back and end this supposedly casual thing, it's getting far too complicated and messy to be casual.
Where's the fun in what is happening now OP? Then it's not "just fun" is it? It's some fun with lots of shitty games thrown in. Sounds like a bad relationship to me and it also sounds like your a lot more emotionally invested in this than "just fun" too.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (17 January 2013):
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He isn't playing games he's being immature. If you want your things message or phone him, tell him when you will be round to collect them.
If he doesn't respond then just show up when you think he will be in,if you want them back.
The thing is if YOU want more than FWB then maybe you should just tell him outright.At least it puts an end to the doubts,his and yours
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2013): The FWB game is now over...feelings, emotional attachment, insecurity/jealousy has entered the room.
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reader, N91 +, writes (17 January 2013):
 Sounds like he was hinting that he wants to be more than a FWB and when you didn't catch his drift he maybe was a little annoyed by it and decided to start playing these 'mind games' your friend described
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