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writes:Hello there.I am an Indian who is on a Green Card in the U.S., been here since mid-2013. Not yet a citizen though.I have a husband and a 6-year-old daughter. My daughter was born here, but me and my husband weren't, we're still Indian citizens. I've not checked on my Indian citizenship though, think I could lose it.Then again "don't ask, don't tell" applies here about citizenship as in theory we arent allowed dual citizenship in India?The big issue here is my boss; he's expecting me to become the tenant for his house in West Hollywood, which is a 1.5 hour drive from where we live!I've not been able to work much due to the pandemic, unfortunately. I did get paid, though, thankfully, so wasn't living on nothing.It's good to get back to the office, although the boss has told me that the tenancy is for me and only me, not other employees.Why would he do this, it's odd, he's said it's not for other employees?What do I have that the boss wants me to be a tenant and other employees don't?I've asked him why, he won't say any more.This is the boss of a small firm with 60 employees (well, 62 if you include the boss and his personal driver), not a mega-corporation like our own Vadilal, an ice-cream brand, or Google.I don't want to seem ungrateful, but I'm concerned over this.Why would he do this? He's refused to answer, even when I sent a formal email.I don't want to move, really, like where I am.I'm happy here, don't know how long i'll be in the US for, but it's good.Concerned over this issue. Would welcome your good advice on things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2022): It is obvious to me why he would not reply to your email and put it all in writing - he does not want you to have written proof of what he said and is saying in answer to your questions. The way he has done this so far, verbally, you have no proof at all that he ever said this. It all sounds fishy but what I don't understand is why you are hesitating to say no, just say no thank you - end of discussion.
I always find that answering a question with a question is a good idea if people ask me things they are out of order in asking - i.e. he says have you thought about the offer about living in that house, why not? You say, why is it so important to you? Get him to give you more info or say nothing. I think he senses that you find it awkward and hard to say no and is trying to take advantage of it.
As to why you and why none of the other staff - could it be because you are an attractive female?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2022): I think your boss fears losing you so he makes this offer as an incentive to keep you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2022): Just tell your boss, you appreciate the offer; but you are fine where you live. Your boss doesn't own you, and he doesn't have any legitimate right to compel you to live in his property. His motives are highly suspicious, when he won't answer your direct questions as to why you so specifically???
If I were you, I'd politely decline and leave it that. If he fires you over that, so what? File a complaint with the Dept. of Labor for unfair termination; and get a lawyer and sue for unfair labor practices. What else will he decide you should do without explanation? It makes no sense anyway. How does your husband feel about it? You didn't even mention his opinion; which he has a right to impose at this juncture.
I really don't see why this is so hard for you to figure-out? It isn't fair to other employees that he openly and blatantly shows favoritism; and trust me, your co-workers will resent you. That will be difficult to endure, and amounts to as bad as being fired; because you'll be frozen-out, until you end-up quitting anyway.
It's too suspicious, and doesn't make any logical sense. Your green-card citizenship is not leverage held over you, unless you allow it to be. If your fears about your immigration status becomes the issue; there is no telling what you'll be doing for this boss. He's just your employer, not your owner or master.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 May 2022):
 You don't want to both work and rent from the same person, that seems out of line to me. If you lose your job, you would lose your home too.
I would tell him that you value to offer but that you already have a place to live that work for your family ( I presume that you do) and that you feel renting from the same person who employs you is not something you are comfortable with.
YOU do not OWE him to live there.
Or you can ignore it, and if he brings it up, tell him in person. I do think it's a smart idea to keep it to email, as proof. Just in case. But I'm a bit cynical at times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2022): I don't understand your position.
Is your boss somehow BLACKMAILING you by "asking" you to rent his house/appartment?
Also, you don't give any details about the work you do and your contract. Are you the only employee who was paid to do nothing during the pandemic?
Can you look for another job?
I too am an immigrant with legal papers in an EU country. I have lived here for 16 years and due to ther coplicated admin. system haven't been able to get an appointment for citizenship. My husband has got it over 10 years ago.
I know what it is like to fel "blackmailed" by your employers because your are in immigrant, a woman...
I would consult a lawyer and keep traces of all communication with him.
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