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writes:Why does my ex care that I kissed his friend when he dumped me for another girl a year ago??? We havent spoke since we split and just ignore each other when we see each other out but recently everytime he sees me he gives me a weird look or grabs his gf and kisses and hugs her right in front of me.I think he must of found out about me and his friend as he wasnt like this before but why would he act like that? If he thinks I did it to wind him up then hes wrong, I got over it months ago and I actually like his friend too. It just makes me feel uncomfortable that he tries to hurt and humiliate me everytime he sees me and the fact that he obviously thinks I still want him and im just trying to make him jealous which Im not!!! Ive moved on, I cant believe hes being like this and I dont want to speak to him about it because it will just make the whole situation worse.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 He sounds really childish. I agree with the other aunts - just ignore the buffoon, and get on with your own life. What he cannot get used to is the fact that now you have a life without him, whereas he wanted to imagine your world falling apart because he is no longer in your life!
He may well be in love with his new girl, but like a small boy who does not want to share his toy, he is doing the adult version of throwing a tantrum. He probably is not even aware what he is doing! It really should not affect you anyhow!!
Dont attach any more importance to it, or he will get the mistaken impression - i.e. - that you are missing him or trying to affect him in some way! And you are NOT...are you?? Take care, and just get on with your own life. Be happy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): Send him an email and tell him. Then just let it be. If he continues to go out of his way to try and hurt you, just walk on by-don't give him the oppurtunity.
It is a weird feeling to see someone you used to care for trying to hurt you as you aren't hurt but feel bad for him as he looks like a twit in the process.
Stop reading into it. Just let it be.
Do move on and do walk away from them.
Good Luck.
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reader, bonym +, writes (29 August 2006):
 My dear you are allowed to move on, maybe he is infatuated will this girl, I mean if he would drop all his friends for her he is either silly or totally silly. You live your life and date or kiss whou you want to, its non of his business, it doesnt concern him, only you. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answer but I really, truly know that my ex does not have feelings for me anymore. I watched him fall in love with the girl hes with now, as well as finish with me I also watched him drop all his friends for her, move in with her and be with her every single minute of the day. Everyone knows he loves her so much and I know that hes happy. It just really gets to me the fact that hes allowed to move on and be happy with this girl but when I kiss a boy he thinks its to wind him up, as if im not allowed to move on!!!!
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reader, bonym +, writes (29 August 2006):
I think your boyfriend is trying to make you jealous and perhaps he even regrets dumping you thats whay he is vexed that you moved on and he maybe isnt truly happy with this girl but wants to make a point of trying to say that he is. Girl, dont even let this bother you, if he cant move on and if he feels the need to make you jealous let him have his moment, if you are happy and have moved on, be happy and dont allow him to get you down. You havent done anything wrong, so leave him to it. Take care xXx
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