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writes:3 Short Problems Regarding Sex!!:1. I cry when I'm aroused. Not when I orgasm, not just before, not afterwards. I cry during ALL of the foreplay leading up to it and after. Usually only when I'm with a guy though - I don't cry when I masturbate myself. Usually the crying is triggered by him fingering which I LOVE! Note, this happens with ANY dude, I don't need a special emotional connection. Anyone know about this?2. I can't have an orgasm around partners. Forget sex, I know its difficult for women, but if he's touching there in one of the best ways I've ever experienced, still, I might get VERRRY close, but I don't go over the edge. I find it difficult masturbating in front of someone so that's out. Or at least takes too much effort. How do I come with guys if either of us can make me come?3. I give inadequate blowjobs. I feel like I really do. I cannot take him in, even halfway, without the need to gag or vomit. I want to please, but I don't know if I may have hang UPS about the cock. I don't like if it smells sweaty. I also noticed the blowjobs are easier if I actually find the guy really attractive and I like him. How do I stop gagging each time I take him in?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2015): To me the most serious issue is the crying. I am no expert, but I wonder if you were sexually abused when very young? I think a lot of guys would find crying during foreplay disturbing, so if I were you I would talk to a therapist. If you talk to a professional and it turns out it's no big deal, then you can explain this to the guy(s).
As for your orgasms around partners, it may be related to the above. Also, you are young, and women's sex-lives usually improve when they get a bit older, so as long as you enjoy sex I wouldn't worry too much about this now.
As the ladies said, use your hands as well as your mouth for BJ's and most guys will be happy with a shallow BJ.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 March 2015):
 Our bodies are mysteries. I cry when my heart chakra is opened. Crying doesn't always have to be sadness, it can be a release. Tears are the safety valve of the heart when too much pressure is laid on it.
I just don't worry about orgasm. It is a pleasant, tingling sensation all over but it is not worth stressing over it.
No one is expecting you to be a porn star. You can do hand job and blow job at the same time. It takes the pressure off of taking it all in. Even if you gag you can take a few moments breathing in and out. They probably like it if you gag. They feel big when you do. You need a guy to be really attractive and you like him. I think that's true for many women.
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