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writes:my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with his ex late 2007, they had been going out for 6 years (who he says they are both completely over each other. his ex moved to the u.s also). he was close with his ex's group of friends at the time and they'd all go out in groups every weekend. he told me his relationship was horrible with his ex and that they'd go on breaks, and they would hookup with each others friends) . now that he is with me he hasnt seen this circle of friends at all for more than a year. today on his facebook i saw him comment a girl who was best friends with his ex and told her that they needed to go to a nightclub at a beach this summer just like in the old days. he suggested that they bring their group of old friends. this worries me, even though they would be going in a group, why would he want to hangout with his ex's friends? i feel worried and insecure
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Hey :)
It could be that he was good friends with some of his ex's friends and doesn't see why the fact that he's not dating her anymore should stop him seeing his friends, which is fair enough.
I get why you're worried, if they used to hook up with each other's friends before, there is a chance he might get tempted back into old habits. You need to remember, you're not like his ex. He said his relationship with her was "horrible", does that describe your relationship with him?
Talk to your boyfriend about why you're uncomfortable with the situation. Maybe you can go out with him the first time he meets back up with these people? It could be that your boyfriend was exaggerating how often they'd hook up with each other's friends just to emphasise how unhappy he was at points in their time together? Maybe you could also try introducing your boyfriend to your friends, so you can all go out together instead?
Talk to your boyfriend, let him know how you're feeling about this. Hopefully he'll see where you're coming from and you guys can work something out that you're both happy with.
good luck!
xxx
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