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writes:I'm seeing a guy and he seems to be stressed out when he's in my presence. I hang out with him at his request.He doesn't seem stressed while talking the moments before we see each other. I ask him if everything is ok, he says he's enjoying my company. He may have other things going on in his life but he called me and was having a side convo with a friend and his spirit was up. I talked to him until he was at my house which was about 5 minutes and he was fine until he got out the car and came in. Why would anybody want to be around someone if they're going to act like that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo he's pretty outgoing when he's with his friends. I think that he just may not be that into me. I stop talking to him and he begs me back and then he comes around me acting the same way. At this point I'm just done with him
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (17 October 2014):
 Is he awkward generally with people he doesn't know? Is he clumsy and lack the ability to engage in small talk?
Mark
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's definitely something going on because when he's around his friends and he never smiles, you would think by looking at him that he was mean and wouldn't approach him. He has a beautiful smile, very humble guy. It just seems like when he's with me, he'd rather be somewhere else. It's like I'm forcing him to be there when really I just agreed to hang out with him. Weird!
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (11 October 2014):
Maybe he has Aspergers our similar condition? That may explain his social awkwardness or stressing about being in your company.
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reader, jls022 +, writes (11 October 2014):
Is it possible that he's a bit socially awkward in one on one situations? That could explain why his friend's presence allowed him to come out of his shell a bit, as it took the conversational pressure off him a bit.
It might not be the case, but as someone who suffers with social anxiety, I occasionally worry a lot about what I'm going to say/how I'm coming across, particularly when I'm with someone I want to impress, and I guess that may come across as odd behaviour to others.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (11 October 2014):
As you say he may have other things going on in his life but it is rather unsual behaviour.If this behaviour continues when he is alone with you I would say in a casual fashion -are you confortable in my company and see what he replys.Best wishes NORA B.
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