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writes:Ok guys, i am wondering if someone could tell me why a guy who would usually watch porn by himself maybe once or twice a wk would suddenly not want to? My hubby used to do stuff himself about once a wk, sometimes twice. Thats in the few years we've been together. Before that he said it was more. Now for the last 3wks it appears he hasn't looked or done anything himself at all! We have in the past fought over him lying to me about porn use, but that has cleared up. He stopped looking at the same time he got a new job, and a few wks after finding out i'm pregnant. He seems to be enjoying what we do together even more then he used to, although the amount of times we do stuff has dropped slightly. This is actually from him as well, i often want it but he'll be tired or simply not feel like anything. I'm happy to pleasure him with nothing in return and always have been, i think he's wanted that perhaps once a wk more since he hasn't looked himself but thats fine by me. We're still doing stuff at least every second day.. It was almost every day until the last month or so.. I guess i'm just confused why he's suddenly not doing stuff himself.. Is it possible his sex drive has diminished? (we're 24) or do guys get bored doing stuff themselves? Or is it out of consideration for the 'crazy pregnancy hormones' haha. Oh i know he isn't cheating (just in case anyone suggests that) Its as if he's simply gone off doing stuff himself and would rather just have me. Which i'm more then happy with but considering he's looked at porn since well before we were together and it never affected our sex life or anything i just don't understand. Oh and he has never and says he never will look at stuff if i'm home. I think thats all the relevant information... So could anyone clear up why someone would go off porn/doing stuff themselves?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk well thanks for the answers. And its not that i actively go looking for it, but its kinda obvious when he's done stuff. I was just curious why he stopped. But he's back to doing it as usual now anyway so never mind. Thanks anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Why don't you ask him or just let it go and stop checking all the time to see if he's watching it or not watching it.
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reader, Cupid Boy  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 Wow, girls will complain and worry about anything. If he's watching porn, it's an issue. If he suddenly stops, it's still an issue. Others would love to be in your place -- have their guy just lose all interest in porn without being asked.People go through phases. Like lots of interest in something, followed by boredom. It's possible that later on, when he's not so preoccupied with work and worrying about fatherhood, he could go back to porn in a big way. Then you'll look back on this time with fondness.Also, I've heard that guys DO go through mental and hormonal changes, including a drop in testosterone, while their partner is expecting:http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2010-06-15-daddybrain15_cv_N.htmAs long as you're still "doing stuff" every week, I think you have nothing to worry about.
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