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writes:A few months back I found out my bf "starred" a fb friend (which meant he will receive updates on her statuses and photos) but upon asking I realized she was a random cutie he found on fb! I asked if he could "unstar" her and he did it. Today however I found out he "starred" her again without my knowledge. Why would he do that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2014): Looking at your age it sounds like you are just WAY more mature than him. He's a little boy thinking he can be clever and in the process not giving one shit for how you, apparently a person he should care about, feels.
It might sound petty to break up over following someone on fb but actually he has chosen to ignore your feelings after you had a reasonable request (not to perv on complete strangers while in a relationship...shouldn't be too hard really) and that just shows he's not ready for a real relationship and isn't respecting your feelings.
Ditch him, he might learn that next time he needs to appreciate peoples feelings other than his own in relationships.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 December 2014):
 WHY? because he wanted to. And because HE wanted something YOUR feelings don't matter.
the bigger key is that you asked him to unstar her (does that make a difference that you had to ask???)
and then he turned around and knowing it bothered you he disregarded your feelings and starred her again...
so now that you know he's going to do what he wants to please himself and disregard your feelings, now what?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 December 2014):
 Because he wants to, regardless of how you feel about it.
I think, he partly did it was because he is interested in her, otherwise WHY be interested in seeing her updates/pictures if she is a random stranger?
He never explained to you why he had "stared" her?
Personally, I don't really give a crap what people do on Facebook, but I do realize that your generation seem to partly LIVE on BREATHE Facebook as part of your dating and social life, so I'd say if you are not OK with him, WHY stay with this guy? He obviously don't care what you think or how doing this make you feel. You two can keep going back and forth with him adding her and you wanting him to remove it... But the ISSUE here is WHY he added her and WHY he thought THAT was OK to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2014): He likes her. It sounds like you want a more mature relationship than he is able or willing to offer you. I guess you should decide on your next move.
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