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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone. I got a strange text from BF of 5 years today. It said “Hi beautiful, just checking in to make sure you haven’t forgotten me, and that you are flourishing as usual. Very busy with school sports for the kids at the moment but enjoying it. How are you?” Very weird seeing as we have lived together for 3 years, he saw me this morning and I know very well things are busy. It’s like it was to catch up with someone else but “Hi Beautiful?”
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2018): Oops! That might have been meant for someone else and he made one huge slip-up! I'm sure he will have a feasible explanation for this; and of course, you won't believe it.
You asked what we think, but I guess he's the one you should be asking what it's all about. Get straight to the point; it seems odd and the content seems directed to someone who wouldn't know the obvious.
If it was meant for you, it's quite possible he's buttering you up; because he feels guilty about something he said or did. You just don't know what that might be yet, or don't recall. In any case; you've got to discuss it, because it's got you wondering...what's up?
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reader, 02DuszJ +, writes (28 February 2018):
 Well that was no way a text meant for you, that's clear as day. He's your husband so you should be able to be completely honest with each other- tell him how it made you feel and why you're worried about the "hey beautiful" thing. JUst ask him straight- if you're not happy with his answer and you feel he's hiding something. I guess you may just have to distance yourself in the hope he'll come round and be honest, keep eyes open.
However it's likely innocent.. my uncle talks like that, he sends messages to my mum (his sister) like that all the time. It's likely meant for a family member.
You know him best at the end of the day. Give him the benefit of the doubt until you have substantial reason to think otherwise
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2018): My first instinct is it was meant for someone else.
It sounds like he's reaching out to a woman he hasn't seen in awhile and trying to start something. "Hi beautiful" is a classic opener for players.
Even if you ask him about it, he's going to pull an explanation out of his hat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2018): Truth be told, it is weird.
It does sound as if he were writing to someone else. Someone he likes and is close to.
I'd ask him in person, but don't expect him to be surprised. If he took another look, he probably realized he sent it to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2018): Yeah that sounds fishy. I would ask him face to face who it was intended for. Maybe he has a good explanation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2018): A guilty conscious? He has done something he shouldn't do?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 February 2018):
 I'd ask him what's up with the weird text, but I would DO it in person. Why to gauge how he reacts.
Maybe he felt you two are too focused on other things and not each other so he wanted to make you smile.
Personally, I can see why you would go hmm... if this is not his usual way of texting you, and if he usually do not call you Beautiful as a nickname.
So just ask him when you see him in person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2018): Yes...my first reaction is he meant to send it to someone else (and meant to say “hi beautiful” to someone else).... did you text back or ask him why he sent it? Or did he send a follow up?
The only other thing I can think of is if he meant it as a joke or in a weird literal way, did you two talk about anything related to communicating more or complimenting each other more before he left? My husband has sent me texts like these after we’ve had talks about communication etc. I took it as a half joke half sincere attempt to communicate more. So does his text fit in any context?
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