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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi, i really need someone to help me with this as i'm not sure what to think.ok, here goes!I recently become friends with my ex, he was having trouble with the relatonship he was in, i listened to his problems and helped him through it.I knew i still had feelings for him but kept them to my self as it was a long time ago.To cut a long story short, he text me to say that he still loves me and has feelings for me.Then stupidly, i also said that i 'thought' i still had feeling for him.His reaction has suprised me a little - he freaked out, as he was telling me that nothing was going to happen because we were a long time ago and it was all finished.This has really confussed me, why would he say it then take it back?shall i just forget about the whole thing like it never happend? Thank you x
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (18 October 2009):
 Not only should you forget about it, you should also forget about him. He is with someone else and if your relationship was that long ago the two of you should've stopped communication a l-o-n-g time ago so you could both focus on your present lives and not dwell on the past. I'm guessing you have had a harder time letting go than he has, and you have probably been the one initiating alot of the communication over this 'long, long time' so wake up and smell the coffee. He may have vented on you (when he probably should not have) but he clearly loves the woman he's with and he's now seeing how your "friendship" is going to get in the way of his present relationship. Stop communicating with him, and if he starts it up again, just don't answer. Don't be available to his text messages, his emails or his phone calls. Tell him it's time to stop so you can both move on for real!
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