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writes:my boyfriend is convinced that I'm cheating on him he says he can feel it when we're having sex. I have been faithful to him...what causes him to say this and what makes me wet down there? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2016): to answer your last question first because everybody else has answered the first question. you are getting wet down there because that is what happens when you get turned on. a womans vagina supposed to be wet, otherwise sex would hurt! it is possible that he has only been with virgins and the he did not do anything to turn them on and they felt dry to him. maybe they bleed the first time maybe it hurt maybe not.if he does not understand this, that he should not be having sex because he is ignorant about women's bodies. you are a woman, and he have access to the Internet. If you can access the site like this, you can also access website the tell you what happens to a woman's body during before and after her cycle and what happens to her body before during and after sex.I am in agreement that this man will continue to blame you or accuse you until you prove yourself to him by giving him every detail of every day and not leaving his eyesight. He will still then do everything he can to accuse you because he is the type that is so convinced he is right. I have no idea how you got mixed up with him, but I can tell you to end all contact with him and to stop going to places that he goes unless somebody is with you. also, make sure that somebody is with you when you tell him not to contact you. please tell us more about where you live and what the laws and rules are so that we can have a better idea of what you can do to get away from him and to get the support you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2016): His paranoia either comes from a guilty conscience, or insecurity. When people make accusations of infidelity without any real evidence, they are dealing with emotional issues that should raise red-flags. You know the truth! It's not your responsibility to prove him wrong. He's the accuser, and disrespectfully so!
You know you haven't cheated, and if this continues you will have to make a decision whether it is a good idea to remain in a relationship with a man like that.
It's potentially dangerous; because it raises the questions whether he's stable, or cheating on YOU! You most certainly should insist on condoms. Not only to avoid unwanted pregnancy, but to avoid exposure to STD's; if he is indeed the guilty one!
It's an old trick some unsavory guy's pull. They blame it on their girlfriends, if they happen to be infected with an STD. They raise false-suspicions about you cheating; then pretend they caught it from you! Protect your health at all costs! It's insulting to you as a woman, and you must protect your honor. Never let a man degrade you in such a way. It's accusing you of whorish behavior from a man's point of view. Take him seriously!
It is not wise to remain in relationships with people who accuse you of something so serious. Their paranoia will destroy your self-esteem, make you very self-conscious, and eventually you'll be paranoid too! It's very difficult advising young women when it is time to step back and re-evaluate the person they are romantically involved with.
Women are more prone to dismiss advice to disassociate with bad relationships; and will often allow things to go too far before making the right decisions. They usually end up emotionally-damaged; if not physically-abused as well.
If it continues, do the right thing. Dump his ass! What kind of proof will he accept? Use some logic here. You don't have to put up with this nonsense. He'll treat you like a piece of property; and control every breath you take trying to prove you're innocent.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 January 2016):
 I think your boyfriend is the one who is cheating. Because a cheater always thinks everyone else is also cheating, just because he himself is doing it. Therefor he has no trust in others, because he knows no one should trust him.
I think it's time to say GOOD BYE to mr. accuser and probably cheater....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 January 2016):
 Your boyfriend is insecure, there could be a few reasons for this, maybe he has had a past partner cheat on him and now he finds it difficult to trust you? Or it could very well be that he is cheating on you, this often makes someone paranoid when they are the ones being unfaithful.
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