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anonymous
writes:why would a fella visit prostitutes if the sex is good at home? would they go as our sex is predictable but good? how can lying on top of someone you dont know be exciting or good? i thought men only go to prostitutes when they cant have sex the way they want it??
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I am asking the same question. In this case, the person has admitted that he has paid for sex. Two times, three times and the last I heard he admitted that he has done it six times. How can his wife believe him? How long has it been going on for?He has pleaded for her to stay, attempted to commit suicide as he can not live without her bla ... bla... bla.He asked for psychological help and it was identified that in his sick mind he believed that has wife had affairs with other men. His accusations went so far that he also accused her of their son not being his. None of these were true but his behavior caused endless stress, fights and unhappiness in the relationship.The wife was so unhappy and often refuse sex because she was hurt. The vicious-circle thing....This person claimed that he paid for sex because he was unhappy in the relationship and that he wanted to punish his wife as he believed that she cheated on him. Various other identity problems have been identified during these sessions.For the sake of the family and children, she decided to stay but now two months later, it still hurts and she struggles with questions such as;HOW DO I KNOW HOW LONG HE'S BEEN DOING IT FOR?HOW DO I KNOW HE WILL NOT DO IT AGAIN?HOW CAN I TRUST HIM ... DON'T HAVE ANY TRUST AT THE MOMENT?For her to work through this, she needs to talk to someone, but when she talks to him and asks him questions, it upsets him. Men out there who had similar experience, please let me know. She is devastated and must make a decision. Is she wasting her time with this man or should he be give a chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): maybe its not that he is unhappy with the sex but more bored and needs spice. To me i think its not that he doesnt care about the intergity of his marriage because if that was the case wouldnt it be better to get some one who he didnt have to pay, could have a conversations with. It just seems he would pick a prostitute because he doesnt want the attachment just sex. I would talk to them maybe they want to try something new something to kick some kink back into the relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): Well, I have never gone to a prostitute or even considered it, but i would have to guess it would be because of the expectation of something different or more exciting. Sort of like a one night stand. I once picked up a woman and had a one night stand and it was the least exciting sex that I had ever had, for both of us. There was no feeling there. I did it for the anticipation of exciting sex, but the sex I had with any of my girlfriends was much better. The desire for a prostute is probably much the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): Maybe he wants some form of kink and/or a body type that he can't get at home. And while many men have fantasies but would never act on them (perhaps to protect the integrity of their family and because they love their wives), he possibly feels like he has nothing to lose by doing this. Maybe because he knows you will forgive him. Maybe he just doesn't care so much about the integrity of his marriage.
And why prostitutes?? It's probably learned behavior. He has probably done this his whole life. Somewhere in his brain he sees this type of sexual interraction as appealing and somewhat acceptable for him.
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