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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey, I've been with my girlfirend for about a year now and I must say, it's been going well.Since I went to university, we've been fighting more and more. Little things turned into huge matters.She used to be able to tell me anything that was bugging her. Now whenever she's upset, she'll keep it inside. She makes it dead obvious when she's upset, even updating her facebook status about it, even telling her friends what's up but not me. But whenever I ask her or text her, she'll go "nothing." I know she's upset and she wont tell me anything. I've learnt to back off and not continuously ask her what's wrong. Because she said that that's one of the things that bugs her. But when I don't have contact for hours or days, I get worried.Her reasons are that she doesn't want me to worry about her. Because I'm at uni she thinks that I have to much on my plate that I shouldn't worry about her. of course I worry, but not crazy, I'll think about her but I won't worry all the time. I'm quite a relaxed boyfriend, I wont get upset by little things, I'll always respond to her when she wants me to, I'll always do anything, and listen and comprimise, sure I'll miss out little things that sometimes turn into arguements, but I'm a male, I'm not perfect.The only times I worry are when she's upset and she won't tell me.Is there anything I could do to make her speak to me honestly again? Anything to make her open up to me about the things that are upsetting her?
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reader, Vcristina62  +, writes (17 January 2010):
my advice is bring her back to the old but good times of your relationship. Do something with her that you guys had fun doing and opened up to you. My favorite place to was the beach. Maybe plan a romantic date for the two of you and open up a little to her first and she how she responds.
Another way you could go about it, is ask her friends whats wrong and if there's something you can do. BUT BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL!!!!! the second plan could backfire and she could feel betrayed and that you were going behind her back.
so id go with the first plan. goodluck :-)
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