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*llenella1
writes:I've been with my girlfriend now for 1 and a half years and when we first got together our sex life was GREAT. We use to have sex a good 5 times a week. This lasted for a while and lately it has now gotten to 1 time a month if im lucky. Ive tried to ask her whats wrong and why this has happened and ive just got the same answer that shes bored of sex and if she could she would get rid of it completely out of her life forever.Now being a guy who loves my girlfriend with all my heart, im struggling to cope with the fact that she never wants sex. It hurts me more and more every day that I go without because of how we use to be.I feel ugly, unloved, unappreciated, worthless and useless to her now. I feel she still loves me, but not as much as she use to.Im starting to wonder, if she just bored of me, like if i left her and she found someone else, would they start out like how we were then die off?But its not only the sex. She will never do any foreplay with me. No BJ's, no handys, no nothing, i cant even do anything to her. When i confronted her about this, she tells me because id just want sex straight after it, and ive told her that I wouldnt.Please help, this is hurting me more and more as it builds up inside. I dont want to feel like a 50 year old couple anymore. Im 19 and we should be having sex like teens, not old people.
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reader, Daisy Doo  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 to me it seems something has changed herr mind likefor example: falling pregnat and not wanting a child and thinks you might and she has to kill it basicly.
i know thats not true but nthats an example ^.^
Tell her you want to talk about it tell her how you feel and get to understand her why she is thinking this way.
Good luck! xoxo Daisy Doo xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): HIWhen me and my boyfriend got together five years ago, we would always have sex loads, like nearly everytime i saw him, and that was like every other day i guess.About two years into our relationship in went on the pill, and also went off sex about 6 months after i was on it, i also lost interest in sex, even though i loved him so much, i just lost interest, we would try diffrent things, but it never worked.Just recently like two months ago, he got fed up and dumped me, not just cause of that, other things too.So when he went i realised what id lost and though what have i been doing to him all this time, i should have really come off the pill, or at least spoke to a doctor about it, but it never crossed my mind.Sex just got boring with him and i thought that was it.But we recently got back together again and am now on a diffrent pill which is loads better.I tried buying diffrent underware and dressing up for him doing nice stuff, and it worked it also turned me and him on too.So maybe you should ask your girlfriend if she has a health problem you dont know about, or if she is just totally bored of sex altogether.Sex is what makes a relastionship and it makes you closer to a person, and the more i have sex now i closer i feel to my boyfriend, and i would hate to lose him again.
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