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writes:i have been with the same girl for 5 years. she is my fiance now. when we first got together, it was crazy. she'd suck me off, swallow, use her boobs, her hands, i'd cum everywhere. now it's like she doesn't want anything but to jus have sex missionary style and b done. am i wrong to think this is a problem? i don't want a boring sex life, so what happened to the fire? what can i do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2012): A year ago I was having problem with my woman. She refused to give me blowjobs. I was confused. I didn't know how to convince her. Since I didn't know the solution, I've searched the internet and found this incredible website with fantastic tips about how to persuade your wife of girlfriend how to give you a blowjob. On of the most important things I learned is this (burn this in your brain):She believes that going down on you just “isn’t worth the effort.” Women like this don’t have enough respect or love toward you. A grown man who’s in a healthy, loving relationship shouldn’t have to beg for a blow-job. REMEMBER THAT!Take it from me. I caught my woman in the act cheating on me…did some recon and found out my woman blew other guys before me who treated her no where near as good as I did and/or she only knew for a short time. While she WAS NOT giving me blowjobs at home, she was sexting this other guy about BLOWING HIM, and get this, I felt sorry for HIM because HIS WIFE didn't do that FOR HIM. Can you believe that!?!Don't put up with this! Be the man in the relationship and DO NOT let her walk all over you. Women love dominate men. Not an overbearing A-hole, you don't have to be a jerk, but figure out how to spark the SAME emotions in your woman's brain as those "bad boy" jerks do. You need to work out, eat healthy, dress nice, and make yourself attractive If your woman just isn’t that into sex or you have to beg for it or you have buy her presents or behave in specific ways to be “rewarded” with sex or she’s not open to talking about and exploring what’s mutually enjoyable, you’re probably not going to be happy with this woman no matter how wonderful her other qualities may be. FYI…I get them now with her whenever I want! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Hi! I have strange case. In fact my gf herself started giving me BJ. In the beginning I feeling it not much. But as time passed, I got addicted to it. I many time ended up ejaculating but she never swollowed it. One day I accidently ejaculated in her mouth. Since that day, she never gave me any blow job. But even she don't want to talk about it. I've got so addicted to blow job that I have started to begging her for this. I give her cunnilingus many times but she never does it for me. So my advice is to never ejaculate in her mouth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): Everyone else is very on point. I have a few other things to add. Maybe she was wild and crazy in the beginning because she was new to sex and those things and maybe just experimenting and trying to either please you or to fit in with what everyone else was doing and now that she's got you she doesn't feel like those things are necessary? In any good relationship you have to have great communication and I think this is something you need to talk to her about. Tell her openly and honestly how you are feeling without accusing her of being boring in bed because that would just be a huge kick to her ego and could backfire and cause her to pull away even more. Has she recently gotten on the birth control pill or changed pills, because they do lower testosterone in women which has a side effect of lowering their sex drive? I wouldn't give her an ultimatum to start being more sexual or threaten to leave her over it, but I also wouldn't suggest you to stay in a relationship that doesn't satisfy your needs whether they are sexual or emotional, they are all important. And you do not want to end up in a sexless marriage and I'm sure she doesn't either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): you can leave..you really want a sexless marriage. Just wait till you have kids. Leave dude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): You think it's bad now? Just wait till she gets that ring on her finger and gains 30 pounds. Run, don't walk run!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 June 2010):
 This could certainly be as "celiaaletta" seems to suggest, i.e. a lack of satisfaction for your woman. A fundamental piece of advice is to "keep the woman happy, and enjoy her appreciation." It's a two-way street, but if you are doing a good job pleasing her, and yet she offers less than before, then you have some other issue going on there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): I've been with the same guy 7 years, and now we are married. I think our sex life has only improved over the years, I give him whatever he wants and its as dirty as when we first started dating, if not dirtier. Its verrrry important to see eye to eye on the sex, it is what keeps you there when times are bad. Honestly, I know everything else is important, dont get me wrong, BUT you need that passion, spice, excitment. Try explaining to her what you need in order for feel satisfied, she should want to please you, being that your her future husband. Good luck.
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