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writes:im giezelle 26, i have currently an affair with a married man he's 45. we were together for 2 months and he was just the sweetest one ever. he came into my life unexpectedly. we met in a bar.. we got to talk and since that night, we kept in touch.. he communicated with me. texted me, called me.. stuff..i know he's married becoz he said it to me from the start. i know its wrong and i avoided him but he was so persistent. anyway, i have a bf, but he's in philippines now. but still i decided to have an affair with this married man. meanwhile, i was having the time of my life, the married guy (lets call him jorge) was so sweet and we made time for each other, we have a great sex. we were together once a week. he was so open with his feelings. how he loves me and stuff.. i wasnt. i was guarded. for me, i entered this relationship with an open mind, i never had an intention of being with him forever. Now i feel he's avoiding me, he just stopped texting me.. why he wont text me. it truly hurts me since i knew that i had fallen for him. i'm so sad.. he refuses to talk to me now, so as giving explanation, i love him, and its hard to let him go and move on.. seems like can't leave wthout him now, (I keep our romantic pictures) what do i do? im heartbroken pls help :(
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reader, shobe_14 +, writes (2 March 2011):
shobe_14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks to all advice .. i miss him now.am just wondering now.. how to deal with this??? its so hard, plus the fact that we're in the same country means that there's a very high chance that we see/meet again each other if he texted me again i can't control not to reply him what shud i do?i want to forgt him but my heart stil insist. how to look him in the eyes, knowing what has happened...
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reader, Glastogirl2010  +, writes (2 March 2011):
Perhaps he's avoiding you because he's married? Okay, here's the reality of having 'relationships' with married men: They're bored with their partners and therefore betray their love and trust by having a secret fling with somebody else... and the end result will always be that they will go back to their wives and family.
It's time to accept the truth. You knew what you were getting yourself into. I agree with DrPsych, if he cheated on his wife, who's not to say that he might have been cheating on YOU during your fling?
Not only has this experience highlighted how dishonest and untrustworthy this guy is, it's also revealed how dishonest and untrustworthy you are, too.
I'm sorry - it's the truth.
~Glastogirl2010
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (2 March 2011):
 It seems strange to be heartbroken when you knew deep-down this relationship was going no-where. This man has stopped texting you because he got bored, went back to the bar to get another girl or maybe his wife found the messages and buried him under the patio...whatever the explanation, you will never find happiness with another woman's man. He cheated on his wife, he would have cheated on you if you became his wife...you should be thankful that the fling did not last. Learn from your mistake and move on with your life.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 March 2011):
Because he's married, and he's had what he wanted. You never really meant anything to him other than sex, and now you've cheated on your boyfriend, and disrespected his wife. I hope you learn from this - married men don't love their mistresses, they laugh at them.
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