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writes:My gf and I have been together for almost a year now. When we first met we didn't leave the bed for 6 weeks unless it was to eat or go to work. She very sexually open. We would try different positions, give each other oral, 69, etc. She once told me she gives road head and on a trip to the lake she sucked me off for like 20 minutes. I found a safe quiet spot to pull over and we had the greatest sex of our lives. As time went on she seemed to withdraw, limiting our sex, and telling she didn't feel comfortable giving blowjobs anymore. The real kicker is that she tells me how she knows she gives great bjs (and she does) and that after her ex broke up with her he would call begging for one. Personally I've never begged and won't. I have told her how much it means to me and that I would really like it again (once a year just doesn't cut it). She'll suck on my finger when I go down on her (which I love doing). She kinda did it once when I couldn't get it up. Our sex life is minimal now (1-2 times a month). I've gotten a taste of what sex with her is like and now its just...different. I feel really sexually repressed because of it (and told her). I want to talk about it with her and work through it but she "just doesn't want to talk about it". I would feel guilty for cheating to get what I want. What should I do? What's going on? I can't fight the hunger anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): im having the same problem here and they dont care about us the good ones but if we cheated in the beggining we would be in the wrong but as we have given them chances and oppurtunitys and they are still not bothered then all we can do as MEN is finding someone better trust they are loads of women that love satisfifying there men trust me had alot the hardest bit is just leaving the one ur with now but once ur gone ulll be the happiest man
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 ok well dont cheat on her for a start. Thats not gonna help anything. All that will happen is you will be dumped and then theres no hope of those great blow jobs is there?
i think you need to talk to her and tell her you love her and although the sex isnt the most important thing (you dont want her to think its all you care about) you do miss it cos you miss being close to her. Sex is a bonding experience and it can be lonely to be in a relationship without it.
You need to find out whats going on though. It could be anything from stress at work through to her feelings about the relationship changing. She's the only person that can let you know whats going on. She has to talk to you and tell you the truth, its your relationship as well as hers and you deserve to know whats happening in it.
Feel free to email me anytime.
good luck!
Brooke
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reader, love-him +, writes (6 March 2008):
 HEY!!
That is exactly like what me and my partner of two years were like.. We did everything toooooo fast!! Everything you can imagin we did it.. You need to get her into the mood, and when she is, then let her know you are happy to stop whenever and will only do what she wants.. There is a chance she could be stressed?
GOOD LUCK! Feel free to mail me at any time x x x
ooohhh and the sex in the car is also realy exciting because its the fact you could be caught :D
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 maybe the two of you just did too much too fast? i think that she should respect wat is going on and be able to sit down and talk to you about it - tell her that. you NEED to figure out wat is going on with her - she may be having problems, she may be sick - it could be anything - but you have a right to know. talk to her, tell her that while she may not wanna talk about it, you are in this relationship too, and you are hurting right now, and you would like to know wat is going on with her. ask her if anything is wrong with her or if she needs to talk about anything that may be affecting her. if she avoids talking with you then you need to be a little more stern - telling her that it is not fair and you want to know wat has changed. you deserve that and you dont want to make any mistakes before knowing the truth. i would like to talk to you a bit more about this hun, email me - only if you want. good luck and i hope things work out xxx
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