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writes:hello aunts...i know what im doing isn't right...ive been seeing a guy who has a gf for almost six months...and have made 3 attempts to cut him off and obviously have been unsuccessful...i truely don't know what to do...he seems to be kind of weird...i told him that i have his house number and his gf cell phone number and if he didn't leave me the f**k alone that i was going to call...this man called me, which i thought was kind of weird...you would think that he would back off considering i could alter his relationship status...even if she didn't believe me it would still cause some trouble...\for the record they don't have any kids and are not married (not that this makes a huge difference)...but overall my question is what could he possibly be thinking with the threat of me telling his gf he's been sleeping with me for the past 6 months and i know all about her, where she works and lives, her whole name, where his mother lives, i know everything, alot of personal confidential information that he has felt comfortable telling me. i know he trusts me and loves me but as i told him i am a young, successful woman that doesn't necessarily have to settle for him AT ALL!!!i still have other male friends but he's my #1, and im his #2...lolit's kinda funny to me because i never intended to fall in love with him...just wanted to have a little fun and send him home to his gf...but he won't let it go...ive asked him to consider since we both know what we're doing is wrong...that we both need to put effort towards ending it...such as when i call him he refuse to answer and visa versa...HE REFUSES...and i held out for 3 days and he called and left messages at my hm and cell all 3 of those days...i dont know what's on this guys mind...he's 40 and im 28...he's known he's gf for over 10yrs...been with her on and off for 15...i can't understand why he just wont be walk away to save his relationship the trouble... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): WOW! Serenity. I was the one who ask the question about the mistress and the ex working out so thought I would check out your situation. You sound like you quite like the thrill and the excitemnet on this. I think you know deep down that he does not think too highly of the women that he is with and this makes you feel special but, you basically just want to hear it from others. When responding to gcumbr1 you tell him him that you know what you need to do, (but you obviously don't really want to do that). You also say you know it wrong.
My take on it is that you know its wrong but you dont care that it is wrong. So just get on with it.
....'you know what qcumbr1 i think you are 100% right...(like you didnt know deep down) because he has told me once before that he doesn't feel as though he is taking a risk...and that he loves me to the point that im worth him getting caught...which is no way good...but i don't know i guess time will tell...i do love him alot and will be there for him to fall back on...'.
Good luck to you.
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (1 December 2008):
Serenity1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question you know what qcumbr1 i think you are 100% right...because he has told me once before that he doesn't feel as though he is taking a risk...and that he loves me to the point that im worth him getting caught...which is no way good...but i don't know i guess time will tell...i do love him alot and will be there for him to fall back on...thanks for your input i really appreciate it.
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (28 November 2008):
Serenity1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks...i appreciate your input and i agree that i should stop answering his calls and find some one who's available...but my question was "why would he risk what he has for his bit on the side"...according to everyone on here when a guy sleeps around it's only for sexual reasons...ive threatened to call this guys gf...and that seemed to turn him on more or something....
i don't want to be the one to tell this girl...and if im right she already knows in her gut...if she doesn't she is a very naive 38yr old woman...anyway...i already know what i need to do that's not what im seeking advice about...
ok you (qcumbr1) have been married 3x...as a man why would you still pursue "bit on the side" if you don't want to cause trouble in your currenly "loving" relationship???
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