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writes: Dear Cupid, I'm still finding myself in a tricky situation. My bf arrived from overseas last week (Thurs), I rarely get messages from him as he doesn't have a mobile that's working properly in the country.He went out with friends for drinks, and in his last message he said that he won't have his mobile with him, that he has been busy and when he "gets a chance" he'll call me so we can chat, asks if that's ok and wrote I love you. When I responded his mobile was off.I know this might sound selfish but I haven't seen him for so long: 7 months, why doesn't he make the effort to text me more perhaps from a friend's phone or call? It doesn't take hours to do so. I'd call him but his mobile is off most of the time, so he must get hold of me.I can't help but feel angry because I thought that I'd be important enough for him to see me sooner than what has turned out.What should I do? I'm confused. I'm waiting like a sitting duck, and I can't call him.It hurts knowing he's having fun now that he is at home, and I haven't even been part of that equation. While he was away we always called each other, emails. To be frank I felt closer to him while he was away and this is eating me.Should I just wait and see how this pans out? I really love him, we've spoken about marriage, but this attitude really is bugging me. I know I'm repeating myself, but what should I do- it hurts knowing that we're so close in the same country, and he hasn't made the effort to get together something that we've both longed for so long and now his family and friends come first.and I'm last.What should I do?Thanks for reading, and for all the advice.It is veru much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): ok i think you need to somehow get in contact with him and ask him why he is shutting you out.
We all no what men are like, somtimes they just want to be with there mates and have a laugh.
i think you need to remind him that he is in a relationship with you, and should at least make the effort to come and see you before he goes out.
i hope this helps.
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reader, nadine hillside +, writes (27 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
It's ok relax, he might not be texting because he wants to sort things out,get to know everyone and catch up on family life and everything else.
But keep in mind he didn't try to hide or run as fast as possible when the subject marriage came up he still loves you, you just can't see it.
And when he returns he will feel stupid, sorry and regret not texting and calling you and saying he loves you often. Don't worry he LOVES you.
Hope everything works out.Goodluck.
Nadine
xXx xxx
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (16 April 2006):
 Maybe the reality of being home is not as good as the relationship you have long distance.
If it was me I would be hurt and angry, he should have put you before his mates and he did not so you need to do something about it.
Go find him and tell him you miss him and want to see him and that you have waited a long time to see him again and did not expect to have just a text message.
Tell him that you want to go out and spend time together and you want it very soon.
Ask him outright why he is treating you this way as in the pecking order a girlfriend should come very near the top.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (16 April 2006):
 I understand why you would be upset, wanting to spend a little time with your boyfriend after such a longtime is wrong. expecting your boyfriend to want to spend a little time with you either isn't wrong.
obviously something changed since his be away or maybe he just really missed his friends and family.
the best thing is to not smoother him, let him come to you...if you chase him it will just make him run a mile. just wait thats all you can do or move on.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (16 April 2006):
 Dear Reader,
He probably hasn't texted you because he needs to sort himself out first. He's been away for this long loads of people are going to want to see him.
He must really love you too if he didn't run as afr away as possible when you talked about marriage! Just relax, let him come around in his own time. You are wanted!!! Who knows, i bet when you do see each other again he'll be deeply sorry that he didn't come sooner. Don't hassle him about it, the last thing he wants is to feel pressured into seeing you.
All The Best and Blessed Be,
Phoebe
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