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writes:My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 11 months now. Today I returned from being away for two weeks and we spend most of it rather physically. I've never came before but today I did. The strange thing was that she couldn't. She has before, several times. But this time she kept getting closer and closer and not finishing. And eventually we stopped and she was in pain, telling me her clitoris was feeling very uncomfortable and sore. I'm not sure what's wrong, but I hope someone can help me, as normally she comes quite quickly :S. She got very upset about it. Another strange was that afterwards she was extremely stimulated and was pretty loud when we did anything, with a LOT of a moaning. Which she normally doesn't do so much. Could it just be that she's much more used to being fingered and therefore it takes longer? She tells me she doesn't want me to perform oral on her, but I'm wondering if that would help? Thank you.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (17 July 2011):
 too much for too long makes you sore. as she never came she was very aroused after which is why there was very vocal moaning.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (17 July 2011):
when you have been having sex a while you do become sore if a woman's clitoris gets over stimulated.It does become very uncomfortable next time, if she starts becoming uncomfortable again, give her loads of oral. It feels so good when you're sore.My boyfriend eats a ice cube then gives me oral. when i'm sore it feels so good, and really takes some of the soreness away
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reader, sher101210  +, writes (17 July 2011):
i agree with chigirl. girls' bodies don't always work the same, but i'm thinking maybe she hit a plataeu?? try something new :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 July 2011):
 Oh yeah, and she was sore because you kept at it for too long. Some times you get sore easier than others, again there are no concrete reasons why. It just happens. If you're particularly sensitive that day you get sore faster, other days you can go at it for ages without a problem.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (17 July 2011):
No, you're all wrong. It isn't about being used to it or not, and it isn't strange either. Women are complex, there as so many factors involved in whether or not they can orgasm, and the stimulation they need also vary a lot. One day one thing works, the next another. Last times you were at it this thing worked, now it doesn't. Completely normal. Don't let it upset either of you, just say "ok, so it didn't happen this time, but that's ok". If she's desperate to orgasm she should go masturbate it out, because typically women are able to hit their own spots easier (as they will know exactly what will work at that given time).
Even through masturbation though it can be impossible to come unless all the factors involved are right. There are so many factors I can't even begin to list them all up. It can be anything from the sent in the room, to the dust in the ceiling, to her homework, to the look in your eye, or the socks she decided to wear that morning. Everything is a factor in the mystery of the female orgasm.
It's not weird that she didn't come this time, it was pure luck that she was able to come with you all the previous times. Don't worry about it, you'll find your way back in the groove.
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