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writes:Thanks for taking the time to read and respond to my post...I recently started talking to a girl through facebook, she's 17 and I'm 20 it's always been innocent conversation as she's a good laugh and what not. On Friday night, she ended up out at the same pub that I was and her mates ended up dancing with mine, so we were hanging out for about an hour or two. Afterwards we went to get something to eat and ended holding hands and kissing a good few times. As I was drunk, I was stupidly pulling the 'come back to mine' routine. But it's not like it was out of hand, just kinda joking around. She was resting her head on me for the whole taxi ride home too.The next day I was just making conversation through text as normal, but it was like she was giving really short answers, one word stuff and it was me making the conversation all the time, which is so annoying. So I kinda left her to it and didn't try to keep the conversation going and didn't text her at all today either (sunday). Was thinking about leaving it until tomorrow (monday) before trying to pick things back up again?Does anybody have any input on what could be the problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry if I wasn't clear about how I started speaking to her. It was over facebook, but I'd known who she was beforehand already.
I decided I had nothing to lose, you guys were right and I'm not really bothered about rejection anymore, got over that fear a while back. So I apologised for the things I said and felt bad about it and asked her if she wanted to do something sometime.
She told me she's too busy right now with college and work and stuff so I just said fine, I can understand that. Not too sure if it's genuine or just a kop out but know either way now. I said maybe some other time and she didn't acknowledge it, so kinda gives me my answer!
Thankyou as usual guys.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 March 2012):
 Well, I think she might have thought you used her for a one night stand, so if you are serious about her, call her ask her out on a date without all the mates around. Maybe a movie & dinner ?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (26 March 2012):
If she met you at a pub, was she drinking too? I don't know the drinking age limits where you're at. Anyhow, if she was, she could have been hungover. Seems too simple but I've given people (even guys I liked) short answers because I felt like crap and didn't feel like talking to anyone.
Could have been something you did or didn't do, or could be nothing at all. Also, if this was your first time meeting in person, she may have realized that she's not as into you as she thought she was.
I think you should try talking to her again on Monday, if it's the same way then maybe assume she's not interested and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): As you said you 'stupidly' pulled the come back to mine routine.
You should have asked to see her again, as in a date, not given the impression you were just after sex.
All you can do is ask her out, straight out, no messing. If she doesn't want to see you it could be that now the drinks worn off shes changed her mind.
Only one way to find out?
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reader, Deagan +, writes (26 March 2012):
 Us girls can have high expectations. This girl got to thinking that you two were having a great time. She was really dropping those hints that she likes you hard. She probably got it in her head that you were going to ask her out by the end of the night. In her head, it would have been extremely romantic. But you didn't, and she's disappointed from her own expectations.
Her giving you short answers means she's disappointed.
That, or she was really drunk too, and she woke up the next morning realizing she wasn't that interested in you after all.
Quit the casual conversation and ask her out already. She's probably frustrated that you haven't pursed anything yet and she's giving up. What do you have to lose at this point?
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