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writes:Hey,So this is pretty much a small and quick question. I had people round my house other day sort of a small family get together anyway my cousins "new" boyfriend was round and we all really get on but before they left I was sitting down and he randomly came over and was tenderly stroking me on the shoulder and I have no idea why the hell he did it. I don't understand it he didn't once look at me while doing it and everyone else was in deep conversation. It just took me off guard as he has never done anything like that before. I mean its probably nothing but I can't stop thinking about what it was about and was hoping maybe someone could shed light here as I don't want things to ever be uncomfortable he's a lot older and I love him and my cousin together they make a really good couple.
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reader, PRETTY KITTEN  +, writes (11 January 2014):
it was probably nothing stop stressing it not like he gve u a kiss chillaxe kiddo
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reader, NotAnXPert +, writes (10 January 2014):
I am not a Pollyanna... that said, like you I hope and tend to believe it was not a "come on" or intended as an inappropriate advance.
I am someone who touches people as I talk with them and it is not unusual for me to touch them just as you described as a sign of friendly affection and sometimes reassurance. If a friend or family member has been going through a tough or challenging time I am especially apt to do just what you describe.
I think your situation leaves out a lot of details that might duly inform the situation but I understand you are not here to create a blog of your own. It is very possible he sensed you were anxious about having so many people over. It might be he sensed that something had upset you and wanted to offer reassurance. The most likely explanation in my mind is he loves you too and was expressing it. I feel compelled to do this to my children sometimes when I do not feel words will adequately express my tenderness toward them.
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