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writes:so the other day it was the first time i touched my mans penis and i was surprised i wasnt scared at all. nothing like i thought it was going to be. but after a while of me touching it and rubbing it he moved my hand and sat up quickly and like covered himself. i was just wondering what exactly does that mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): He likely came (ejaculated) and was either embarrassed about it entirely, or was embarrassed that he came (ejaculated) too quickly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): Penises are not scary. The two of you just don't seem ready for this kind of intimacy yet. Start with the two of you giving each other massages in you underwear. Then, slowly, you can start exploring the private parts of each others bodies. No rush.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Was he erect?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): All the answers here say the same thing. By asking this question I really wonder whether you know what you are doing at all, and whether you should be undertaking sexual activity if you don't know what happens and what the consequences are.
I am also a bit bemused as to why you were surprised you weren't scared. Why were you expecting to be scared of your boyfriend's penis?
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reader, Jeseh.  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 He might be a virgin so he was afraid or maybe he was on the verge of ejaculating.
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reader, daletom +, writes (21 July 2010):
Possibly he suddenly felt guilty or ashamed of what you two were doing . . . but it's more likely that he was suddenly aware of an imminent orgasm, or he suppressed an orgasm.
Why? Both guys and girls are socially conditioned to think of orgasm as a very personal thing. Even though you are boyfriend/girlfriend, he may not have been ready to share that event with you. Some people, guys as well as girls, go through life afraid to really express their climax when they're with a partner even though they twitch and quiver and vocalize if they are masturbating in total privacy.
Or, he knew that as soon as he climaxed he would lose all his sexual arousal and not be interested in any further sexual activity. (A common complaint among women is that guys roll over and go to sleep as soon as they finish, while girls want to at least continue cuddling and caressing.) He may have stopped you just short of his climax so that the two of you could continue your lovemaking.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (21 July 2010):
He is shy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): If you don't know whether he ejaculates or got hard or whatever may I suggest that you don't have sex because you are clueless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): He either just about ejaculated, or he did ejaculate. No big deal, you did nothing wrong. In fact, you must have done a good job because you took him over the edge, and that's what's supposed to happen, if you want it to.
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