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writes:My boyfriend will not invite me round his house its been 6 months and I still have not met his family :( I get he doesnt have a lot of spare time out of school but his brother who is in sixth form and his girfriend (who are always round his) keep trying to invite me round on his behalf but he does'nt want me too and he hates it when they do that they keep trying to embarass him infront of me, he has been round my house a couple of times. I was hoping to make him feel more comfortable in my house so that may ease him up abit? but so far no affect He also worries that he thinks my house is very tidy and he says his house is 'a tip' I also get he has a house full of people with his older sister and parents and his brother and he is the youngest and he will get teased but I really want to meet his parents and surly they want to meet me by now?? How do I make this happen or should I just split with him?? please help cheers?xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi again
well now its been 8 months and he still won't budge and to answer your questions... yes he is close with his family as far as I know an they know I am his girlfriend and all that we don't exactly live round the corner we both live in seprate areas but within a 15-20 min walk and its just the fact he has no time and he is embarressed by his famalam -.-
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reader, Warm-Inspire +, writes (8 January 2013):
 Do you live within reasonable distance of his house to maybe meet them on a weekend, or do you do your own thing on a weekend without eachother?You could also just walk up to the car with him and formally introduce yourself to his mum, it wouldn't be going to his house but it's a start (and he can't have an excuse for that).Once you're aqquainted with her he might feel a bit more inclined to invite you over since half of the pressure is gone.Is he close with his family or does he tend to keep himself to himself?I didn't meet my partners mother until one year in, purely because they're not at all close and totally uninterested in each others lives, and even then he didn't want to introduce me.It's all about giving them that little push, letting them know you won't stay hidden forever, let him know that it would mean alot to you and you refuse to remain a secret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK, I get the whole sibling thing, I don't mean split with him and its more after school we stand together waiting for our parents to pick us up but his bro and his gf and always waiting for his mum to pick them up (because she goes round their alot) and his mum has seen me but never got to talk because she is in the car and his brother makes it rather embarrassing but I don't understand what could be so bad about his house (btw I am his longest relationship and we are kinda serious) but he knows he can't hide me forever and his brother said as a joke their dad thinks I am imaginary...The wierd thing is my bf's bro is turning 17 soon and his gf who is in the year above me just turned 15 and me and my bf are 15 so she is the same age as me but she can come round whenever but I can't and it freaks me out abit like I will never meet his family... know what I mean?xx
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reader, Rositaa  +, writes (7 January 2013):
Sorry to hear this.. But im guessing if he dont want you to meet his family at that moment is probably because he hasnt found the right time to tell his family. He would love for you to meet his family.. Just give him time to find a way for you to go to his house without his siblings teasing him..
My ex boyfriend was the same way it was until we were like 9 months to finally tell meet his parents.. But im suggesting you for just giving him some time
Hope this helps c:
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reader, Warm-Inspire +, writes (7 January 2013):
I wouldn't go as drastic as to split up with him over it, he could be telling the truth, he might be worried about what you think about his house as a representation of himself.He also may be reluctant since some families will go out of their way to embarass, making an already nervous suitation worse, not maliciously, but for some reason a really mortifying story that you'd never want anyone to hear turns into a good source of conversation for them when you're trying to make a good first impression of something.Siblings are more likely to be guilty of this.Suggest arranging something where it's just you, him and his parents, less pressure.All he needs is a little reassurance that you're not bothered by his house. The quicker you make him feel at ease about something he's self consious about, the quicker you get to meet his family.Good luck.
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