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writes:Hi, so i have been seeing a guy for 2 months, everything had been going great! Last week we went out for dinner and he says out the blue " my head is all over the place, let me go to holland and have a long hard think, and when I return i'll see where im at" (eek!!) . He is a school teacher and went on a school trip to Holland. He returned Monday, on Wednesday he text and said " my head is still all over the palce, 2 weeks ago i wanted to make love to you, now i just dont know let me move and see where im at xxx ..... ( FYI he is moving house this weekend ) What does this mean for me? what did i do in 2 weeks for his feeling to change so suddently? what do i do now if i stand a chance of making this relationship work?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (6 April 2012):
 WTF? You two didn't have any fights to spawn this? Did you start talking about marriage and children?
Something is off here. I'm going to go another direction and say he wanted to have a week long hall pass to hook up with Dutch woman. Now he's not sure if he wants to be monogamous.
You need to talk to him and ask him what exactly is the issue. Ask him what made him feel this way. We can only guess on here. The only way to know the true answer is by talking to your boyfriend.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (6 April 2012):
 You didn't do anything. I just think he has a lot to deal with at the moment and just needs to concentrate his energy on the move.
Give him space and let him contact you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2012): My feeling would be to say, ponder all you like but don't expect me to be waiting for you to decide at your leisure! If he likes you, he likes you - this 'time to think' is madness. I would take the lead and say, contact me if you have feelings for me but I'm not waiting around forever. He will respect you more for being strong, even if he decides he has gone cool on you ultimately.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 April 2012):
 YOU didn't do ANYTHING
and kudos to him for trying to figure it out...
give him space and time.... let him move.... that's a huge mess to deal with...
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