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writes:I lost my virginity three years ago to my ex boyfriend, since then I have only slept with him and my current boyfriend.The first few times I had sex it was painful but I thought that was because I was new to it and that it would get better.But even now, every time we have sex, it's really painful. It's like a burning sensation from the moment he's inside me that lasts the whole time. And I don't get any satisfaction whatsoever from it.We've tried slowing down and using lube but that doesn't make a difference. I try to relax but again it doesn't work.Perhaps using a condom would help?I don't have any STIs because I've been tested and the results were clear. I've been on Cilest pill for almost as long as I've been sexually active, could it be caused by my pill?It really upsets me that I can't enjoy that with my boyfriend like most couples. Sometimes I have to ask him to stop and it makes me feel really bad. Usually we just resort to oral but I want to be able to enjoy sex. Last night I had to ask him to stop and as soon as he did I burst into tears.Btw I'm 20What can I do to make it enjoyable? Should I see a nurse?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (6 April 2012):
 Burning sounds like not enough arousal/lube. Have you tried having sex after he gives you oral sex for awhile? It takes the average woman 20 minutes of active foreplay to be fully turned on.
Three years though, is a very long time to not realize you aren't getting enough foreplay. I would say that is globs of good water based lube isn't working, you should go see a doctor to rule out a condition where your muscles painfully contract when you try to insert anything.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 April 2012):
 if you are using enough lube (and I mean ENOUGH)
and it's water based then by all means go to the doctor
have you tried OTHER lubes? could you be allergic to the lube?
some feel better than others....
but yeah talk to the doctor or nurse about this... be honest...
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (6 April 2012):
 OP, I think you need to take a trip to the Doctors and get checked out.
There could be all manner of reasons as to why it hurts, from not being turned on enough, or him being too large.
Talk to the practice nurse or your GP, they will be able to help. They have seen all this many times before, so don't panic.
You mention you are on Cilest. I have my own personal experiences of this pill, and it wasn't good. Within about a week of taking it, it turned me into a total emotional wreck, depressive, suicidal, mood swings, nausea, cramps, and total lack of any sexual desire.
It pushed me to the brink of insanity, and I never ever want to feel like that again. I lost myself totally, and changed into a shadow of my old happy self.
It took many months after stopping that pill to return back to normal, as it affected my hormones so badly.
Sex should not be painful, and it may be that your hormones are not at the correct levels to make you able to enjoy sex. Go to the Doctors talk it through, and maybe have your prescription checked at the same time.
Best of luck
Tiger x
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