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writes:why shouldn't kids ages 11-13 be dating? i mean is it okay if you don't get to destracted with him/her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): i think that kids dating when they're 11-13 is a great expierence. it gives them a chance to be able to have their first relationship with a boy/girl. they should be able to date because they are old enough to find out what they are doing and how it feels to be dating (just as long as they don't get too distracted by the boy/girl)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007): look, you are VERY YOUNG!! TOO YOUNG TO DATE DO YOU UNDERSTAND THAT? there are many different meanings of dating and love. they do not mean the same things, are having different varieties of in depth conceptions. what i'm trying to say is that you should wait until you are ready and older to understand the true meaning of romance and dating, love, etc. i know you probably want to fit in like other kids these days who are dating but soon enough your time will come! so just be patient and wait.......................
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reader, trivium1238  +, writes (9 June 2007):
im 12 and ive had hundreds of girlfriends in the past nothing bad has ever come out of it.we should be asloud to date.you cant keep 2 people who care about each other away from each other its not right.admittadly the parents probably wouldnt like what some of us do whilst on dates but then everyone has to grow up eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2007): Well. let's define dating. I am assuming you mean single, real dating? Going out with a person, one on one..no other friends around? As far as 'single dating' everyone goes at their own pace, dear. Self-confidence, self-worth, maturity and common sense should play a huge role in the attitude of a teen who is dating. Teenagers date for all sorts of reasons and at different ages. And sometimes it has nothing to do with even liking the other person. It has to do with peer pressure and status. Therefore many teens are anxious to prove something to their friends by being the first to date. Having one's friend's notice and approve, is far more important to many teenagers. Young adolescents should never, ever allow their friends to pressure them into dating if they aren't ready. Sometimes teens will date just to get that person who is unattainable..it's a challenge. ..they want to capture the prize...again, to gain approval of their friends and for status. One can avoid this problem by giving themselves value, worth and self-love, regardless of what their friends are saying or doing. So I won't say that teens at 11-13 should not be dating. I think that it's important for the a younger teen, to realize that status and approval is not the 'end all'. And usually at this age, many of them date for this very wrong reason. I think teens should go at their own pace and know that if they date someone just because 'all their friends are doing it'...they are dating for the wrong reasons. Teens should make sure their self-confidence, their maturity, their common sense, their own independence and self-love are all well in place, before dating. Dating is important but one has to be ready. And if you aren't..accept that as being okay too. Find and enjoy just hanging out with opposite gender friends you can have fun with, without getting super serious. Adolescents may find that being friends with a guy at 13 years old may turn into a depp friendship that can grow into a love relationship when they are both...say 16-17 years old. But I will say to all young teens...Don't ever do anything you think is 'expected'of you just because your friends are doing it! Pay attention to your feelings and really think hard about what those feelings are trying to tell you. Just some thoughts to share...take care and good luck and please...enjoy being young!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (9 June 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
That call is always left up to your parents. Boyfriends (and girlfriends, but let's just say boyfriends from now on.) CAN be really distracting, even if you don't think they will be. Also, boyfriends usually mean some sort of physical affection (i.e. kissing, making out, etc.) - and all though that's probably what you want to do, you're not necessarily ready.
I'm sure whoever told you that you couldn't date yet, is only looking out for the best. Boyfriends (and girlfriends) are trouble! The drama, the physical stuff, etc.
You have the rest of your life to date! If you do start dating soon, just remember to not take it so seriously. You're young and you should be having fun with your buddies.
Stay sweet, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, DV1 +, writes (9 June 2007):
 Because they're too young to understand the real meaning behind it.
DV1
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