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writes:About a month ago I started working with a woman and became very interested in her. For three weeks we were BOTH very friendly around each other and flirted frequently. She appeared to be interested in me (laughed a lot at what I said, very positive body language, etc.) and I was feeling good about my chances in possibly going out on a date with her. Unfortunately, the past week has been different. She completely ignores me on occasions, she even turned her back on me when I walked by her. I asked her how her day was TWICE and she didn't even grant me a response. And the worst, whenever a situation rises when just the two of us are together alone she turns and walks away from me within seconds, before I can even talk to her.My question is this: Why on earth would a woman appear to be interested in a man and then suddenly ignore him at all costs for no apparent reason. The fact that a woman is not interest in me is not the problem, I have been rejected plenty of times, but I have never had someone ignore me for no reason after giving me very good vibes before. I have never done anything wrong around her in terms of anger or being mean, in fact I have been nothing but nice to her. There are two reason I think this could have happened. One is that she possibly found out I like her through our mutual friends. (I'm fairly sure my friend told her friend that I like her.) Is she threatened by the fact that I find her really interesting? Does she think I have other creepy motives? All I want to do is go out on a date with her.The other reason that she could have possibly changed her attitude toward me is the fact that we are different races. I am white while she is Native American. Is it possible that her family and friends have completely turned her from me because I am white? By the way, I am one of the few white people living on a Native American reservation at the moment. Is she ignoring me because she doesn't want to deal with the cultural stigma of being with someone who is white?I realize that I am rambling. I will stop it there. I just need some advice as to how to deal with my current situation. Please let me know any possible reasons as to why this woman is now acting so strange around me after appearing so interested before. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): This happened to me two years ago. Either you were too slow, you both are too shy, or, she realized you were available and it wasn't as much fun to chase you anymore. This girl did the same thing with me for 3 months, then all of a sudden: bone-dry. I felt like sh*t for a few months afterwords, when I got a new job, but then realized that nothing would have happened and moved on.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 March 2010):
I suspect you've been led up the garden path, as the saying goes. Her flirting was nothing more the friendly, and I suspect she realized you liked her and didn't want it to go further. Best to just move on from her.
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