A
male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Help Folks! Middle age male here having a 2 year 'full-time' relationship and subsequently on 2nd year a Long Distance Relationship due to work commitments. (she agreed to the long term plannings)First 2 years of Relationship was Very Solid. 1st year of Long Distance was very solid too. The last 2 months was in total confusion for me. Right after a regular argument and patch-up. She told me not to communicate in the evening (which was done every day). The reason? Woman-feeling, needs no explaination! 'Love' is most important, she said.Then, Every Morning was her usual self, and none after 5pm. As I do not want to be seen as a possesive person. I attempted to have confidence (without calling) till a stage where I couldn't take it. Questions are....Why would my GF not tell me what she had been doing? Am I not worthy? Is she seeing someone? Is She putting me on a standby list? If she sees me as inadequate, why wouldn't she just tell me outright? (I would Respect and walk away)I believe in reasoning out, progressively, I told her my concerns, all of them. She denied anything negative, only stating that communicating with me in the evening would be more stressful due to my day-job-pressures.(Blame me) She only goes out with family members. Again no explaination as to why she responded my odd call with 'I am BUSY NOW' and thereafter, no return-call.In order to pressure a clear answer, or a better response. I offered to leave if she decided someone was better, a 'part-time-morning-only' role is NOT for me. I got the same answer. That I was negative (Blame). Sensitive (Blame and more). She was insistent on her stand.Following days were the same. Fully-Committed-Sweet Morning conversations and nil in evening. I didn't attempt to try calling as I do not want to be seen as not having confidence and respect in the relationship, at the same time, I do not wish to get the 'I am BUSY NOW' answer.When I press the button further, I get a rare evening Webcam conversation.I don't think I am asking for too much for seeking Clarity in the relationship, especially when changes occur. Why wouldn't she bother to explain better when she knew I was having doubts? I am dead serious in the relationship and do not want to have any suspicion, but I m not getting the answers. My assumption might or might not be accurate. The uncertainty is killing. Thanks in advance...BigBoy
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reader, Jasmine42 +, writes (2 January 2010):
She is obviously seeing someone else that may have moved in with her or she reaquainted with an ex that has moved back in or moved in. Have you ever been to her home during the two year relationship? If not, she is either living with someone, married or in another relationshp.
Trust me, it's easier for women to cheat, then men. Especially if she is with a man that works constantly and pays her no attention. Been there, done that!
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (1 January 2010):
 5pm must be when her other boyfriend gets off work and turns up.
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