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*hrisL70
writes:Why my husband won't show me affection in bed? He talked about al of his exes and how he would please them knowing they cheated on him but knowing I'm loyal he makes me feel like a call girl just in it to get his rocks off. He knows nothing that turns me on and what I do tell him he doesn't retake any interest in. He has told me numerous excuses as to why and saying he will show me but its always the same all about him. He does good I give me a a quick kiss before hand with no touching or exploring just the quick call girl effect to benefit him? Do I stay in this for the rest of my life? Do I cheat to give him the challenge he maybe needs to show me he loves me more than his exes? Or do I just give it up and move on?
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (5 July 2013):
 The next time he approaches you for sex, you need to tell him that you need more foreplay. If he won't give it to you, then you don't have to give him sex.
It's not fair if only one person that wants to be pleased is being pleased. He's being selfish. Don't let him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2013): He's lying about how much he pleased his ex girlfriends. They were probably just as dissatisfied as you. He is just saying that to build himself up and so you'll think that you're the problem, not him. And as you see, his plan is working.
He just sucks in bed, I'm sure he has always sucked in bed and for some reason has no desire to change. Maybe he is lazy.
Yeah that's lame. Especially how he has a problem (and he knows it) and instead of acknowledging it, he chooses instead to make you feel insecure. I don't believe in cheating but you need to do something. Yeah, do what you gotta do. He needs a wake up call.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 July 2013):
 IF you are not happy and have told him and he won't work to fix it then you should leave. I would not cheat. Besides how would cheating give him a challenge? Cheating is about lying and sneaking around...
You could try what I did... tell him you are going to take a lover and see what he says....
my husband is very affectionate outside of bed and loves to cuddle in bed... but when it comes to sex... all his cues are from porn and he has no clue how to build up to sex... so for us it's all about HIM during sex... I get my affection from him at other times and no matter what i've said it's not going to change...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2013): Give up, don't accept that, ever. You deserve more and plenty of guys out there will satisfy your needs.
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