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female
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30-35,
*b47977
writes:My guy friend has been not talking to me and I've stopped texting him because he hasn't been texting me. He never talks to me anymore! I don't know what happened, he says were still friends. he is usually online all the time and he hasn't been himself lately. Since hes my best friends cousin I have been seeing him a lot. He's trying to ignore me but we have to see each other in school and sometimes out of school. My best friend trys to get me places that shes at because hes there and I don't want to be where he is if he needs space from me! What should I do? Why isn't he talking to me? I think that I have learned that if he doesn't talk to you be yourself and don't force someone to talk to you. If he wants to talk to me again I will be ready to be his friend.
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reader, mb47977 +, writes (25 May 2009):
mb47977 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice! No he doesn't have a girlfriend and I have tons of guy friends!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): Typically, men will be blunt with emotions of distaste; however, feelings of attraction, especially in young men, can be coded. The avoidance is the odd aspect, here.If the two of you had a close relationship, and now he has stopped talking to you altogether, that means that he DOES share the same feelings but something is wrong. Unprovoked avoidance is a clear sign of some type of distress. For males, especially young males, avoidance is a method, usually practiced unconsciously, of getting more attention. As long as you two of you did not have a falling out I can promise you this is the case.His reasoning for doing this could be a myriad of things. The only way to figure it out is to ask him what the problem is. I'm willing to bet he doesn't have a girlfriend currently, huh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2009): Sounds like you may have had a bit of a crush on him and he knew it and didn't return those feelings. You probably came on too strong and he didn't want to hurt your feelings so he avoided you. Maybe when he sees that you've moved on, like get a boyfriend or become interested in another guy, he'll feel safe to be your friend that way.
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