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writes:I have a co worker that's being a bit much flirty with me lately. We've known each other since a long time ago but never had even a bit of interest for one another.Last weekend we were in an office convention and we all talk about how nice the place was (the convetion was in a resort). So I said it was OK and then he looked at me in the eyes and said "yeah you can take your BF and spend a weekend away here". Now, I don't have a BF , but he has a GF. Then yesterday we were talking with other people and suddenly he asked me how about I didn't had a BF and what was a witing for? So, I replied that most of men are taken, and he laughed and said in a flirty way, "Not all of us are".Why so much interest all of a sudden and why is he doing that?You know he takes the chance to talk to me and likes to be around me, stares at my body and me, ask me where am I going and says he sometimes is with his girl b/c thought of the motions, So what's going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): This does not sound like the kind of man you should get involved with. He is not a loyal kind of man as he is showing by being how he is with you while still involved with a woman. He has bad moral standards.
When people break up in a relationship, even a bad one, it takes time for them to heal and deal with the emotional baggage. They will project everything they dealt with in that relationship unto you. For example, if his girlfriend cheated on him, he will be very suspicious of you because he hasn't given himself time to get over it and learn to trust again.
It is not a good situation anyway you look at it.....find someone more worthy of your love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): Be real careful!! I had a very similar situation at work. This guy was coming on to me and I fell for it and became very attracted to him. I turns out he USED me to make his current girlfriend jealous. I got hurt (thank God I never slept with him!) and felt like a real fool because I let him do this to me. I'm over him now, have another male friend at work and this really helps with the healing process. If you want my advice, find a guy who's unattached.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 It sounds as if things are not all sunshine and roses in his current relationship and he's beginning to shop the market to see what else he can scare up on the side before he dumps his current girlfriend. As long as things were going well in his domestic life he was willing to go along without much interest in you, but now it looks like he is getting ready to move on.
If he is somebody that you might be interested in, your best strategy is probably to just flirt back for now, but not accept any invitations from him until you have solid evidence that he has split from his current girlfriend.
Oh, and if you're heading into this, do so with your eyes open. You know that this is a guy who does get antsy in relationships eventually and that there is a better than even money chance that he will end up moving on after some time with YOU, just as he seems ready to do with his current girlfriend. This would be complicated by the fact that the two of you work together. So think it over carefully before you decide to take the plunge.
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