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writes:I met a boy recently, very randomly who asked me for my number while I was browsing the CD section at the library.That same boy proceeded to ask me out on a date to which i cautiously accepted as I had not been in the dating game for a year after being in a long term relationship.Anyway, that same boy has asked me out three times in a row now, we've held hands, talked about everything and I feel super comfortable around him.I just don't understand why he NEVER texts me. In between making dates with me, or us 'hanging out', he never texts me to see how I am doing.Is he really just not that into me? Why is he sending me mixed signals?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): As weird as it seems there are people who just dont like to text...
i am 44 years old and as of the last couple of months my hubby is gone a lot...and i have begged him to text me and he always said, I cant. Well after a couple of incidents about 3 weeks ago that i wont go into, he suddenly decided he could. the first few days, it was really inane things...just trying to think of something. But i was really proud of him for trying and now i am getting a few a day. Sometimes it just says im thinking of you and i love you....hey i LOVE it!
But i said all of that to say, he really may not be a texter. have patience, keep texting him, and dont be upset if he doesnt text you back. Especially now that you know that he IS that into you....hehehe
Eventually he will do better i would be willing to bet, but not unless you keep on trying. :) mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWent on a date last night, he told me he just wasn't a texter haha, so I guess that's what it was..besides....he told me he was most definitely into me ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): This would piss me off too. Have you sent him txts? If not then you should start it, ask questions, and if he doesn't reply have a chat with him about whether he is a texter or not. Some people aren't
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe asked me to text him last night when I woke up so we could do something. I did, and he hasn't replied. Maybe Lazyguy is right. He's just not that into me I guess. Oh well.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (16 August 2010):
 He ain't send you mixed messages.
You just aren't capable of reading them. Rent the movie "He just ain't that into you".
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): It sounds to me like he is very much into you, and things seem to be going well. Maybe he isn't the kind of person to really text. Maybe he prefers to talk in person, and isn't really into texting. I don't know. Why don't you ask him? Before getting really worried and wondering if he is not that into you, why not bring it up next time you see him? Ask him how he feels about texting. If he is not really keen on texting but you are, maybe you could explain to him that you would like the occasional text here and there, just to say hello. But if he doesn't have a phone, or prefers not to text, then I think as long as you see each other fairly regularly and keep in touch, this shouldn't be taken as a bad sign. Try not to worry. Enjoy the way things are going, and ask him about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh he definitely has a phone, I sent him a random message today that was left unreplied to.
I've a huge fan of the book 'he's just not that into you' - and one of the rules to that book is that 'if he isn't contacting you, chances are he's just not that keen'.
I'm not a serial dater, never have been, so I dunno how all this stuff works. Is it weird for guy not to want to talk to you?
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reader, FluffyPie  +, writes (16 August 2010):
 My boyfriend never did that, and we're still together for a year now (can't say I was pleased back then, I wanted to dump him, because I thought he was uninterested in me). He's just enjoying the time spent with you, if he likes you and he's able to show you when you meet, it's OK. I know, ANY person should be able to have at least 2 minutes to ask "how are you" or "i miss you". On the other hand, he might be cheap. I know, because along the relationship, my boyfriend's credit on the phone was always 0 (zero) and I once told him to call me, but he never did and he pulled out this "I have no credit left on my phone". Now he says "Texting is expensive". Mind you, his parents are loaded, but whatever...
So, if he's showing you appreciation when you're together, my thought, you shouldn't be worried. If he's not appreciative and loving enough, that is if you have this feeling, just tell him in a friendly voice that you'd love it if he started to text you more and be more interested in your daily activities.
Good luck
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (16 August 2010):
My boyfriend never did that, and we're still together for a year now (can't say I was pleased back then, I wanted to dump him, because I thought he was uninterested in me). He's just enjoying the time spent with you, if he likes you and he's able to show you when you meet, it's OK. I know, ANY person should be able to have at least 2 minutes to ask "how are you" or "i miss you". On the other hand, he might be cheap. I know, because along the relationship, my boyfriend's credit on the phone was always 0 (zero) and I once told him to call me, but he never did and he pulled out this "I have no credit left on my phone". Now he says "Texting is expensive". Mind you, his parents are loaded, but whatever...
So, if he's showing you appreciation when you're together, my thought, you shouldn't be worried. If he's not appreciative and loving enough, that is if you have this feeling, just tell him in a friendly voice that you'd love it if he started to text you more and be more interested in your daily activities.
Good luck
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