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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: Okay, so I need your advice on two things: WHY is this boy being so weird and HOW do I get over him.I've known this guy for over a year now, but recently we were involved in something together so I got to see him a few times a week. He didn't have a car so I offered to drive him and he accepted. He basically would call me pretty or cute and be touchy feely and flirty, so I thought he liked me.Well, I haven't been seeing as much of him but I do call or text him to hang out. And we did a couple times. We even cuddled together and it was very nice. The thing is...I am ALWAYS the one to call or text him. And he only seems to go to things with me if I pay for them. I'm basically the one pursuing him. I feel like the guy in this "relationship" and I hate that. I want someone who loves me as much as I love them.My question is...WHY the mixed signals and HOW do I stop liking him? It hurts that I'm humiliating myself by pursuing him when he seems to want nothing to do with me anymore. But if he didn't like me then why the cuddling and talking to me in my car for an hour and going on dates with me? Nothing has happened with him except for the cuddling.Granted, I never actually TOLD him I like him but it's obvious. I told him once before that if a guy liked me he'd have to ask me out. He's being so stupid, though, and every day that goes by that he doesn't text or call me I hate him...until I talk to him again then I love him. The extreme up and down moods are killing me and I don't know how to make it stop. I value his friendship, though, so even if he doesn't like me I want to be friends with him. Though I think it would hurt to be around him. I don't know what to do. I've never liked anyone this much and I fear I'm being annoying by texting him so much. I just love talking to him. What do I do?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnyone at all?
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