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writes:i was raped 3 times by 3 different men and its really distressing, like they all see me as vulnerable and its making me feel vulnerable... im scared cuz im expecting every guy i see to just jump up and grab me. i see a phyc and i have put 1 of the men 2 jail but the other two i didnt see so how do i find out who they are and stop them from hurtin other girls? has this happened to anyone else? how could it happen THREE times? any tips for little things i can do to make myslef look powerful and strong and un-rape-able? Reply to this Question
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reader, James Kaos  +, writes (19 October 2008):
Hey, you doin' alright...not meaning to get angry but do you know or remember their names cuz I would want to find them and give a leason they won't forget I don't kindly to that my family and fam have a code on what not to do to a woman and that's number 1.
I went to prison for a year for attempted murder because I found out that someone raped and beat my girlfriend's best friend...I just saw red found him before the police did...and well he won't be walkin' for another 1 year at least.....
That's Irish code no man beats a women and diffently rapes her....Sorry bout that, but not all men are like that it will probably be hard for you it was hard her about 2 months but it's been 3 years and she still second guests every guy she goes out with....
Just keep your head high, and try to forget.....can't say frogive thou...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): You poor baby! What terrible terrible experiences to go through for any woman, but to be so very young! Do you live in an unsafe neighborhood? Or did these things happen on a date? Its a little hard to answer your questions without knowing a little more. First of all, I don't blame you for being scared. I would to so very very scared. So, my best advise without knowing everything is to try to NEVER have to walk anywhere alone, especially at night. Don't go off anywhere with anyone that you don't know, and in your case, I don't think I'd go off with a guy even if I knew him! Can you get some pepper spray or mace to always have with you, that would certainly deter someone if you should be grabbed, ect...And I hope that you have a counselor, female friend, or relative that you can talk to.Can you take some kind of self defense classes? Like karate, or something like that so you can be taught what kind of things to do, how to move, ect in case you would ever be in an unsafe situation again? These kind of thing should never have to happen to any woman! I'm so terribly sorry for your pain. But look at how strong you are to have come through this. And you can go on dear. Stay strong and please let us know how you are doing ok?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): how did this happen and where? Just try no to put yourself in this kind of situations where this could happen...like dont be alone with a guy you dont know long and dont drink with them...or if you're walking at night (try not to) try to always be with somebody...
You're way too young and have to be going thru this I'm sorry
Try to focus on yourself and friends and when you feel powerful again then try to date
I was molested by 2 different people and I only felt comfortable with someone by the time I was 21...and he showed me that not all guys are after sex only
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reader, PsychicDove  +, writes (19 October 2008):
 Awwwwe Honey...this is so so awful! You know, for the last 3 days...I have been getting thoughts of rape and all and I was wondering why. And today as I joined this organisation just 10 minutes back, I found myself staring at your question.
Yours will be the first question that I am answering besides you posted the question at the same time whilst I was filling the registration form. Nice coincidence eh? I can see a glimpse of the future sometimes, and I clearly see you do not have to worry about any male any more. There is no more rape or anything violent written in your future...okay?
Regarding your confidence and feelings of security, I will teach you a beautiful spiritual system by which we can release horrific war or rape memories and regain immense confidence as well as experience true peace.
Of course for free, although only if you are interested in it. I can not tutor you here as it takes a few days to teach that, you can mail me here - [email address blocked] and do remind me about yourself.
Good luck and Best Wishes.
~ Dove
P.S. You have a very bright future ahead of you.
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