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writes:My girlfriend of 6 months is everything to me. We quickly fell in love and never looked back and i couldn't be happier. This is until a slight problem i thought was cute at first turned into a real annoyance. You see when we first got together she was really shy, i mean REALLY shy, and it made things hard at first because not only did she have trouble talking to me she also had a problem with other things such as hugging, kissing, and holding hands. At first i thought this stuff would wear off after a little while once she became comfortable being around me, and i thought it was sorta cute. Now she is finally opening up to me after 6 months but the showing affection type thing is still very weird, i mean somethings wrong when you have only kissed your girlfriend 3 times in 6 months. We have talked about it but nothing ever seems to work the way we plan...Can anyone point me in the right direction of what i should/ shouldn't be doing? And could i possibly get an explanation of why something like this would be happening?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to think you all for your words of wisdom and advice... i had a date with her today and things progressed nicely, although she didn't let me kiss her i can't expect too much after our history. However after reading all your comments, i seem to be looking at my relationship with her a bit different now... i don't seem to be weighing on the what i want to do's but more towards the what she is comfortable with, and how i can maximize the time i have with her only using them. I think there is no reason to worry about the health of our relationship at this point because (thanks to you all) i can see things from her perspective...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): Maybe you should ask her if she wants a relationship at the moment and try and see if you both want the same things. If she isn't sure then perhaps you might need to call it a day but you can only know this by having a chat with her.
If you realy love her and are sure she feels the same way and want the relationship to work you will have to support her and be patient as she overcomes her shyness. Don't pressure her or bring it up too much just let her know that you're in no rush and want her to be comfortable with every stage of your relationship.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 July 2010):
 She probably needs more time to mature and get used to the idea of having a boyfriend. If she is not ready to kiss you even after 6 months, then you are right, something is not right. I fear she might not be ready for a relationship. You need to talk about this, but maybe even more: you need to start making out. Has she said what exactly is stopping her? And how does she react when you lean in for a kiss? Try and make a habit out of giving each other one kiss a day, the perfect time being when you first meet that day. Give each other a welcome kiss. Or if you need to start even slower: a welcome hug.
This might be a little forced, but she has not grown comfortable with this on her own in 6 months, and I fear either both of you need to make it happen, or the relationship is only a good friendship.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 July 2010):
 I think ( and I know this is hard) that you are going to have to accept that she is shy and need for things to go slow. It doesn't mean she doesn't like you as much as some girl who would be all over you.
What's the rush?
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