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writes:I met a man online. He is still married, but she has moved out of the home. They run a business together and to date they still draw from the same money pot. I have told him from the beginning that my values want a legal separation and/or divorce, but he continues to say 'its complicated and will take time'. It is a year later and nothing has been done. I'm certain they will not get back together, but I feel torn. Do I stay or do I go?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 One year and still no divorce on the menu... he could be one of the truthfull one's, but they aint many of them...
When a man loves you, he wants to be next to you all the time, he wants to sleep with you every night... One year later, and he's content to see his wife's face at breakfast every day....mmmmmmmm.... dosen't sound much like the Prince Charming in me Mills & Boon books..
Here, see if you can find your story here... it makes good reading and will surprise you at how many women get fooled by married men...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/in-love-w-a-married-man-how-do-i-cope-w-break-up.html
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Talk is cheap. Go.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 July 2010):
 He's got his cake and eating it too... why change anything?
I doubt he will divorce her any time soon, it all just works too well for him as is.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 This man will not leave his wife - you are wasting your time!
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reader, xanthic +, writes (7 July 2010):
 I agree with the others. Claiming to have solid values doesn't mean anything when even you don't follow them, so why should he?
This may help:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 You tell him one thing and do another. What will he believe? Your actions over your words of course. If you really believed in those values you wouldn't still be with him a year later.
You should leave. He's not going to change and he'll keep stringing you along. Let him go.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Go. Start dating other men. Either this guy will figure out what needs to be done or not. You'll have your final answer soon enough if you deliver and carry out the ultimatum. If he doesn't come through, then you'll be that much further along meeting someone who IS available.
Good luck!
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reader, romany +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Sorry to say this, and it may be harsh, but your values aren't that high, you said it, but haven't acted upon it, its been a year and nothing has changed, and you've continued in a relationship with him all the same.
You know this man isn't in any rush, and why should he be, he has you and his business and his life is ticking along nicely, while yours is set on pause.
Get out hun.
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