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female
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30-35,
*eather016
writes:All this while, I was my mother's only, closest, dearest daughter. She has had a tough life, so to say. But now, she's choosing her new lover over me when she only knew him for 3 years! What is it compared to the 20 years we had together? I know she has had a tough life and wants to put everything behind and start over. But how could she love me less for that new man? She even blames me for their relationship mishaps. She still blames me for being one of the reasons why they broke up. She constantly say how she would have married him if it weren't because of me. How could she have said that? That really broke my heart. I know she sacrificed a lot for me in the past but how could she decide that she wants to leave everything behind and love me less already now?
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reader, cardinal  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 To go on your moms side, you said she has a tough life and she needs someone, she needs a lover. You are special to her, but a woman deserves a man. She must have a place in her heart for you, but with this lover she must feel relief and subconsciously she lashes out at you when she is upset about the mishaps.
On your side, how well is your relationship with your mother? How good is she to you? She has had other lovers? Has she lashed out towards you about these other lovers or boyfriends? Consider your relationship with her and how she reacts towards you when she has someone else. Confront her and stand up for yourself.
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