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writes:Why is my husband risking everything by continually spending hundreds of pounds visiting prostitutes, he has put is in debt and I keep trying to hold the family together but I seem to be the only one trying or suffering.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): Because for some men, when they get hooked on escorts (and not drug-using streetwalkers), it's a hard addiction to kick. If you feel you are the only one still in the marriage, then I think it's time you had a serious talk with your husband about your relationship. And if he doesn't want to talk or give you the answers you want, then it's time you had a serious look at your options for the future.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 Because his desire for women under 50 is greater than his moral fortitude, unfortunately. I have little sympathy for that type; he knew what he was getting into when he married you, and if you're still married you've probably been a pretty good wife.
PlainJane is partially right. Men's natural urges are a soft polygamy, with one main woman and many on the side; few men get to live up to these urges fully. Women are "hypergamous," they prefer one sexual partner at a time, but they are always willing to "trade up" for a better one, or cuckold a more stable one. Each gender has affairs for different reasons, women are jsut better at hiding it because they tend to see only one other man at a time.
Still, natural is not the same as "morally correct," and any person who can't put aside their destructive urges has problems.
That's the "why" of it. Now the "what to do."
Normally, I'd say the way to stop him from doing that is to have lots and lots of great sex. However, if he's already been visiting prostitutes, that would put you at risk for whatever they're spreading.
So, much as I hate to do this, I'd advise you to divorce him and take everything from him. British divorce law is particularly nasty to men, so you should have no legal or financial difficulty doing so if your lawyer is even half-competent. It will be emotionally difficult, and if you're in debt, you may have to file bankrupcty, but it's better than being stuck with that guy.
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reader, Plain Jane  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 From scientific evolution point of view, male are born as natural polygamy whereas female is monogamy. This is man's nature that they tend to 'futile' as many female as possible on this earth whenever they can. Female is conservative and more selective to choosing a partner to 'conquer' her 2 precious eggs :)
Otherwise there will be no 'affair' problems in this world...
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 He's in self destructive mode. He's saying fuck it, before I die at least I would have some fun.
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