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writes:Dearest Cupid and Everyone here,I don't exactly know what i need here. All i know is, im looking for a chance that somebody here can tell me why life is always like this. I have a lovely and understanding children, not living together with me cos im away abroad together with my understanding husband. I have a very good contact to my kids every minute if i want. I know it is not perfect but although it is like this my kids are doing fine with the guide of god. My husband are very loving and perfect in my eyes so my kids are.But why, i am sad? why i feel not content. i understand that sometimes our life is not always on top. Its always up and down. But why is it always happening to me. I feel like im always longing for somebody. I have a bad backround from my own family. I mean parents, brother's and sister. The thing is I LOVE THEM SO MUCH. And this love for them is killing me because they never show to me that they at least care. They all hated me even my cousin's. I am the only daughter of my mother who finish the school and have a successful life and i did it all of that by my self. They never help me. All they do is manipulate my emotion. Hurt my feelings and physically. Specially my mother who tell me in my whole life that i am the ugliest person on earth and she is so sorry that she did not kill me when im still a baby. Im trying to forget all of this manipulation all my life. But i cant. The reason is I LOVE THEM ALL. And when i show them that even they are doing that to me i still love them, im still willing to help them, all they do is to hit me a knife in my heart. Im so sorry to everyone here if this take a little long. I just really need somebody who can tell me how can i over come this?. I want also to be happy like anybody else. I want also to live normal like anybody else. I dont like this feeling that i am so so really sad and so down. Please help dear cupid. I thank you everybody who can understand this feeling.
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reader, sweetiebabes +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Dear Sis,
I know what you are feeling for we are on the same boat. I, too, felt abandoned, unwanted, unloved by my family especially my Dad and I tried to be reunited with them but they are aloof and the more I push myself to them the more I get hurt for I could still feel I am not welcome.
Currently, I am working abroad too for the sake of my children, I am the sole bread winner in the family as my husband couldn't help me financially and I think he will never will.
Sis, you have your children and your husband with you. Try to move on with your life, forget momentarily the hurt, the humiliations, the pain you felt from your family. Perhaps this is not the right time yet for reconciliation. I have a good friend who is a parish priest now in Canada, his name is Monsignor Samson, he told me to move on with my life and not think much of my Dad...pls do the same, move on. Live your life happily with your husband and children. Time will just come for reconciliation, be patient. I feel the same way you do but we cannot change them (our family).
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reader, mum45  +, writes (5 June 2010):
Well ,you must be doing something right, perfect husband and kids, so well done for that .As for your mother , she sounds cold, don t take the blame for her shortcommings , count your blessings, don t allow your family the luxury of disappointing you yet again.Sometimes we have to accept that people behave badly wether we love them or not. Maybe counselling would help you , good luck
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Every one of us holds a dark secret, if I can call it that. Some thing, or things, that are dark, deep, hurtful, and cause us great pain. Everyone has something that hurts inside of them. So you are not alone in that respect. Even though people can look happy on the outside, every single person has something in them, a dark memory, a sadness lurking. We look at those feelings from time to time, letting them out a little so they don't make us sour and rotten all through. But then we put a lid on those feelings and enjoy all the other great things in life. I've seen people who are happy on the outside, laugh and have fun. But then you mention one thing that lies close to their heart, and I've seen how the light disappears in their eyes and turn into darkness. Young people as well as older ones. With age I think one learns to accept these feelings more, so that one doesn't show them easily to the outside world.
I just wanted to say, I don't think you are alone. I don't think you are the only person feeling like this. But, if these sad feelings take over you, and you are not able to put a lid on it, or keep them under control, perhaps you should see a doctor and ask about depression?
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