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writes:I just started dating this guy last Tuesday. The next day we got together and had a first date. It was nice we were holding hands and trying to get to know one another by talking. He always calls me but I’ve been having family troubles so lack of sleep and eating. My close cousin J and her boyfriend G hate my new boyfriend M that I have been seeing. They hate M because they saw pictures on his face book that they didn’t like. I can only tell you that my boyfriend likes a certain flag that my cousin’s boyfriend thinks means something bad. So they were teasing me and telling me to dump him and even though it made me cry I went on with lack of sleep and eating for a couple days. One day on my wall on face book M wrote that he might show up to help my dad cut trees because he’s good at that. Then G commented and said no u wont. It went on and they fought on my face book wall. My dad has met M last time we hung out and thinks he’s a nice kid so he was standing up for me. Now both J and G hate me and are no longer talking to me which hurts me because I was real close to them. Sure my boyfriend is there for me and misses me because we haven’t got together in a week. At least he calls me everyday and we talk. Yesterday he was suppose to go to the mall with me and my 4 friends but something happened and he couldn’t show up. So he wrote to me “I am so mad at myself I need to see you and I don’t want you to leave me I am so dumb.” He felt bad because he didn’t show up and he thought that I was mad. I have had only one boyfriend before and he left me after two days because we didn’t know each other. M is totally different. He’s there for me cause I needed someone and he cares about me. He’s everything I was looking for and I could not ask for more. It still hurts me that two people in my family hate im for no reason. I’m trying to let it not bother me but it does. What should I do? This guy is so perfect and I don’t want to lose him ever?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiona southern flag. Hes from the south
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (10 July 2010):
 sounds like your family is being pretty judgmental. you should ask them to get to know him for you.
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reader, Ritasanyal +, writes (10 July 2010):
I have often asked myself why something - someone said hurt so much!!!
And the answer was - oh because I couldn't think of a repartee, or a quick answer and capping comment, the snappy comeback with a neat smile to match
It takes some time to cool oneself, step back and do not get flustered, reply something that is meaningful and not hurtful. Believe me people will leave you alone.
But this cannot be created in day – it is not a miracle – it is a habit
Good luck and be happy
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